Drop your baggage
Alison Reid
Helping New Directors Lead with Confidence & Impact | Executive Coach | Author of "Unleash Your Leadership : How to Worry Less and Achieve More"
Are you an overpacker or an underpacker? My other half and I often drive to self-catering holidays, our baggage limited only by what we can fit in our car.
My classic overpacking item is a bulging bag of worthy, non-fiction books I’ve been meaning to read. It always travels there and back without being touched. I end up just reading novels on my kindle!
A different sort of baggage
I recently had a coaching conversation with Rachel*, an HR leader who’s joined a new organisation. She’d noticed some poor leadership behaviour which she wanted to address, but she was worried about rocking the boat, especially so soon into her new job.
As we talked, it became clear that she felt supported and trusted in her new company and she was usually confident taking a stand. However, she’d had a very different experience in her previous role where there was a culture of blame and retribution.
We realised she was carrying her fear of getting it wrong from her previous company to her new one. Her head was telling her she was safe and trusted and could take risks, but her body was telling her to play safe.
When I asked her what would happen if she dropped the baggage of fear from her previous career experience, she was clear what she would do. She would take a stand in confronting the relevant leader, whilst managing her risk by consulting with her manager first.
Wired for self-preservation
Our brain predicts what happens next based on our past experiences. If those experiences have triggered anxiety or fear, then our brain fast-tracks those to our memory banks – our hippocampus, specifically – to help us to avoid a similar threat in the future.
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This strategy has been great for our self-preservation as human-beings, but often surplus to requirements when the situation we are in has changed.?
Drop your baggage
What fears or other emotional baggage are you carrying which are holding you back from realising your aspirations? What would be possible if you left them behind???
When I followed up with Rachel to see how she was getting on, she shared, “I’ve been focusing on getting rid of baggage and feel far more comfortable with where I’m going.”
I’ve come across this very apt quote to end on, though I can’t seem to find the original source : “Leave your fears behind. They won’t be useful where we’re headed.”?
?*Rachel is a fictional leader based on real-life clients
Alison Reid is an experienced executive coach who helps new Directors lead with confidence. She works with them 1-1, empowering them to focus on what matters, communicate with impact and stay calm under pressure so they can lead themselves and others to great results. She's also the author of Unleash Your Leadership : How to Worry Less and Achieve More. Download an extract or buy the book.
Hi Alison, Thank you for sharing such an insightful post! It’s so true that our past experiences can shape our confidence in leadership. Acknowledging these influences is the first step towards overcoming them. I appreciate your suggestions on actionable steps we can take to build our confidence. It’s a journey, but with support and self-reflection, we can all lead more authentically. Looking forward to more discussions on this topic!