Drop those emotions and get on with lessons

It makes true sense when we say that we must let go emotions and move on with lessons learnt in every event taking place in our lives. Because it is not always about us. Because some relationships are toxic. Because some people will do what they want whenever they want. Because maybe you have driven them away. Because sometimes you just have to recognize that it was only you trying to make things work. Because sometimes letting go of someone is kinder than holding someone back. Because you have become too dependent. Because together you no longer worked. Because the trust has simply gone and finally because your relationship was all about control.

If there’s a reason to not let go of a thing, or person. Then, hold on. Nothing is wrong about holding on. It could make us strong, could improved our selves. But sometimes, letting go could make us stronger. If we think that things aren’t supposed to be difficult, and just doesn’t make sense anymore. Then, it is time. Time to free yourself from a toxic relationships/people. I learned to let go when it comes to the point that it affects my studies, my emotions which could go unhealthy, my relationships with family and friends.

I always think that there’s goodness in every problems I’m facing. An advantage that could benefit me. The emotions and feelings overpower you only if you think over them again and again. Jus Imagine that you will look back this time of you life and probably laugh about it thinking that how childish you were. Moreover, you grow with your experiences in your life, you can let it go for the better.

People used to ask my mom how she remains so happy, so perked about life. Anybody who sees her knows it. She radiates goodness and positivity. Nothing gets to her. To the stranger looking from the outside, you’d think she’s the strongest person in the world. But with the ability to help someone find a solution for every problem, but if they’ve been helped by my mom, they will wait in line to be helped by her instead. Sometimes the best way to let go is to understand life itself. Understand that people or events are just temporal objects that we associate with, understand that we can only find what we want from within our-selves rather than the outside world.

Never suppress: Suppressing your emotions is the reason you're experiencing this in the first place. Be brave enough to let your emotions out. Ask for help: Emotional strength comes from vulnerability. Whether it’s a professional or friend, talk to someone. Know yourself: Know what makes relaxes you. As long as you are alive problems won’t stop. Having an action plan to calm yourself will help. Positive proof: Your mind tends to look for “how things won’t work out”.

Flip that and start looking for proof on how things are working for you. Every little step is a win. Meditate: Learn to observe your thoughts and feelings as they arise. It took me a year of meditation to harness this, but it was worth it. Self-care: Make yourself feel loved and cared for. Take care of your body, take a day off, get a massage, etc. Be patient: Nobody is perfect. This isn’t going to get fixed overnight. You shall gradually build up control as you start to fix the real issues.

Every time your heart tells you otherwise start using your head instead and remind yourself like a repetition over and over again that this person has hurt you in the past until one day your mind learns to accept it and let go. Remind yourself that you are not a toy and you don’t deserve to be played, God gave you the brains to work with them, no body can play with your emotions if you don’t allow them to, if you don’t use your brains then people will play you, if you drop to the lowest earth creature people will crush you because you are allowing them to do those things to you. Cheers!