Drop the debt

Debt is largely a misunderstood financial instrument, especially at a consumer level.

Somehow taking debt is not considered being financial prudent. Despite enough literature to suggest that debt can be a fantastic lever for growth, if managed well. 

Reason it carries a bad reputation is because of all the horror stories when the debt cannot be serviced. You can lose everything you had, because the debt providers have the first right. 


There is another kind of debt servicing that rarely talked about.

That I consider sheer evil. 

Emotional debt


Debt that we take on our inner selves.

Either by choice, or artificially planted. 

There is a fancy name for that too. Emotional blackmail. 

It’s debt, at the end of it. 

Because you tell yourself, irrespective of my situation and my need, I need to service this debt first. 


I cannot leave this job, because I had promised my boss I will stay

I cannot leave this job, because I have dreams to fulfill for my family

I cannot go back to work, because I had promised my kids I would be around 

I cannot take this decision, because it will betray the trust you have in me

I have to tell you how much I love you and care for you, before I express my love for anything else

I have to fulfill my destiny here, before I fulfill it somewhere else 


Emotional debt is an intangible. It doesn’t exist.

We created it. And we allowed it to grow.

And because we don’t pay for it everyday, we accumulate interest for that one day when we will repay back the debt in all. 

And that is NOT a good thing to do


Here is what helps

Treating emotional debt as financial debt 

Take it only when you need it 

Take it only when you can pay it

Pay it in monthly installments


Emotional debt has killed more people than financial debt ever will.

Randhir Singh

Sr. Director - Marketing Communications | Corporate Communications | Brand Building | Crisis Communication

7 年

Awesome. Can connect with this write up so much.

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Tushar Chaudhari

Head- Human Resources | AI enthusiast | Ex- BNY Mellon - ITC- Tata Motors |

7 年

Very well written Ankur Warikoo.. Had very similar thoughts but I am still trying to figure out how to actually implement it in day to day life.. The Power of habit is too strong to break away from what we have learned over the years..:)

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Anubhuti Rattan

People Development Professional | Executive Business Coach | Psychologist | Amazon Bestseller Author | Supports Survivors of Abuse

7 年

Profound!

This is beautiful. I'm sure it is easy to overcome financial debts, but to overcome emotional debt; it takes great courage and mental strength. I love this.

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