The Downside of Being a Superwoman

I know a lot of women who get more done before 9 am than the average human being.? You have a big job and a family.? You have a relationship that you care about and friends who lean on you.? You WANT to do the fun things; weekend girls trips, concerts, waterslides with the kids.? (You know those are fun for you too…Minus the swimsuit drama!)

But remember that big job?? I might have brushed over that part a little too quickly.? You don’t just have a big job.? You’re a little bit badass.? You have built a professional reputation for handling a lot of shit.? You don’t understand people who half-ass it.? You take on more responsibility when you see a gap that needs to be filled. ? You feel compelled to pick up the slack when your team needs it. You are known for your excellence.??

In short….You are a superwoman.

But for what? All in an effort to create The Good Life?? (whatever that means anymore)

Let me ask you something…just answer for yourself.? No one is in your head while you’re reading this.? It’s just you and me.??

Do you feel overwhelmed?

Are you anxious a lot, always worried that it’s not enough?

Do you hold back tears because you know that when one falls there will be a flood?

Do you feel guilty that you’re not happier?

If you answered yes to any of these, this is me holding your hand, sitting on the floor with you, just holding space for you to feel that.

(side note - am I the only one that finds the floor of my master closet surprisingly comforting?)

Feeling unfilled is an emotion that rarely gets our attention. We don’t want to admit that we’re unfilled.? And when we do peak under the covers of our carefully crafted armor to take a look it’s like opening Pandora’s box of emotions.??Ummmm, No thank you!?

Emotions always felt like an ugly secret that I could never unveil.??

I shoved emotions aside.??I pushed them down and kept doing the things that I knew I needed to do.??Something happens to us when we don’t deal with our emotions...

We get really good at compartmentalizing them and really bad at processing them.??

We pour ourselves into the work and other people. We are so busy meeting everyone else’s needs that there is nothing left. We think that the ‘fun’ stuff will be enough to fill the void inside, but it’s not. We hope that it will make it all worth it when we finally reach “success”, but it won’t.

I always figured that I would have time to find myself later, but what if I don’t?

In becoming superwoman I had lost myself just like so many other women.? I gave up on the side of me that I saw as weak.? I pushed the ‘do-er’ in me to do more.? I welcomed an assertive, masculine energy that I thought was what I needed to get through it and thrive.

But it’s not.? That’s the lie that a lot of corporate cultures tell us. They tell us to push harder and we’ll be successful. They tell us to just show up and we’ll be rewarded.

But that’s the same advice they give men.

How’s that working for you???BOOM ??

The truth is, that’s not what most of us need.

Your authenticity is powerful.

Your intuition is powerful.

Your emotions are powerful.

Like anything with power, it works better if you know how to wield them!

There’s a lot of advice out there that seems ok on the surface, but defers women’s power. The very things that make you amazing and unique are exactly what you need to scale your career or business.? It’s inside of you.? But most haven’t ever learned how to tap into it.

I started coaching women (outside of my J.O.B.) a little over three years ago.? And I left corporate 18 months ago when I realized that life’s too short to not chase your dreams.

Since then it’s only become clearer to me. I can see so clearly where my clients lose their sense of self.? (because I’ve been there) I can see the steps you need to take to rise up and into your power.? (because I’ve lived that) And I can see the subtle microaggressions that you’ve ignored for so long that you don’t even see them anymore.? (because I’ve experienced all of them!)

Instead of trying to suck it up and push harder, what if you gave yourself permission to try a different way???What might happen if you learn how to wield your superpowers, the real ones that you’ve been pushing aside?

I’ll tell you what happens…women step into their power all over the place! Women stepping into roles that have never been held by a woman before! Women showing our daughters to accept no one’s limitations be placed on you!

Becoming a Badass Boss is about more than just showing my readers how to lead, it’s about paving the way for women to rise. The secret that no one wants to tell is that you have to face the things that scare you first. You have to feel those emotions and process them. You have to sit on the floor in your quiet master closet, safely cocooned, as you feel that shit.??Only then can you rise.

Need some help?? Girl, you know how to message me!????

SUMMER SPECIAL

Summer is always a crazy time for me.? I want to do all the things and before you know it the summer is gone and I’ve only done half of them.? This one has been a little different.

In fact, this season is different from any other in my 48 years.? This summer I’ve slowed way down.? I’m soaking up the joy in the little things.? I’m taking greater joy from family time.? I’m reflecting on the kind of life I’m creating for myself.? Not just my business, but my marriage, my friendships, and my spirituality too.? It’s a season of self-discovery.

I think summer holds that same kind of potential for a lot of women.? It’s the season of fun and playfulness, but also of trying to fit it all in, rushing to make it all work and there’s a lot of sweating.? If you have boys, it’s very stinky!??

August can be the month when we start to feel the pressure that the summer’s almost over. The kids are heading back to school, the routine will come back into fashion and you’ll be left with that job again.? It can feel a lot like going back to a school you hate.? (remember Mean Girls?)?

If you’re feeling a little defeated just thinking about it, I have just the thing for you.??

Normally the only way to access my 1-on-1 coaching has been through my private mentorship, but during the month of August, I’m offering a one-time private coaching intensive to help you discover your potential and show you how to step into your power and create the career you really want.? In just two hours.

This kind of session can change your life.? Let’s clear the cobwebs, uncover the resistance and get you on the path to your best life.??

The investment is only $250.? Spots are limited.? Book here:? https://calendly.com/espinosacoaching/coachingintensive

BACK TO SCHOOL SUPERWOMAN HACK

Instead of getting the kids everything they need for school, make them do it. Send them to the store. Have them fill up your amazon cart. Whatever works.

Sure, they are probably going to miss something, but then you spend your precious time checking the list and filling in those last-minute items rather than doing the whole thing yourself.

And it teaches them something too.??

My kids are grown, but not so grown that I don’t know how this works. ??