Doubts and self-judgments

It’s all too easy to fall into the dark place, you know that one that’s full of doubt and judgment! That place where the little voice or voices inside your head tell you all the things that you’ve done wrong or that you are not good at. It might even pick the things you are good at and make you doubt them, so you’re left feeling lost with nowhere to turn.?

However, you can always check the facts, you can always take a look at what you have been doing, what is happening in your world to create a balance with those little gremlins.

I think it is important to notice them, to hear what they have to say, but we don’t have to go full in and believe it as fact, just as a whisper that can be looked at to double-check, a noticing to reflect upon. All too often we hear that voice of doubt and hold it to be true and act as if everything is not going well, or that we are not good enough, when the truth is, things are going well and we are more than good enough.

And it happens to us all, we all have moments of doubt, it’s something to do with being human. It is also something to do with the world we currently live in, where people are only sharing the great stuff they are doing, without sharing any of the struggles or challenges. This leaves us thinking that if it’s not easy, if it’s not happening right now, then we are doing something wrong, or that we are wrong, when in fact we are just right and it is all happening just as it should, we just have a false perception of what, when and how.

So the next time you have a doubt, a self-judgment or negative whisper, take a moment to notice it but don’t grab on for dear life, just allow it to share its concerns and then check what you’ve been doing, and the progress you have made, reassuring yourself that you are doing the best you can, and if you’re not doing the best you can, then find something or someone that can help you, without punishing yourself, just noticing and taking the appropriate action.