Doubts can only be removed by action

Today is all Fools Day, but I was always afraid I'd make a fool of myself all the time. Later on in life, I learned that it's actually fun to make a fool of yourself in many situations. Indeed, you need to be a fool in order to learn. So self-doubt can be good, if expressed properly. Yeah, I don't know if I can do this, but I want to try and I know I can learn. So give me a chance. And don't just give me a chance, but help me learn. And if you can't do that, then I don't belong here.

The world should be a place where people acknowledge each other's self-doubt, and we help each other learn. Clearly, I don't want someone who knows nothing doing a heart operation on me. But they have good education systems to help people learn to be heart surgeons. Other fields are less fraught with danger. But the point is that you should have self-doubt at the beginning. That is entirely appropriate. And as you learn, the self-doubt will slowly dissipate. If it doesn't, it's not your fault, it's the fault of the teacher who is not supportive enough.

In that case, it is your fault that you stay with a teacher who isn't helping you. You need to find a teacher you can work with. If you give yourself permission to find the people you can work with, then your self-doubt should aid you, not hinder you. The best way to remove self doubt is through experience and acceptance. Doubt stems from fear and fear is not a good thing. It is a sign of danger (where one must act instantly for survival), or it is 'worry'. Worry is imaginings. Control one's thoughts and act as one wishes to remember themselves acting. After much experience, doubts melt into logical assessment. Enjoy life--whatever you make it to be. Peace, love & happiness.

When you do something well, do it until your doubts move to other areas. If you do it badly and you will at first, you will learn and gain confidence. Experience is the only way to become confident, all the "pep talks" in the world will not bring you self esteem or confidence. Act, act today. Do the thing that you are afraid to do". Your problem is not self doubt but it is rather lack of courage or fear that is stopping you from doing things that you want to. You probably have the fear of getting judged or insulted by others which is making you feel inferior to others which ultimately leads to self doubt.

So,I would suggest you to do the thing that you are afraid to do,start by gradually doing things from least difficult to most difficult. Do them in progression,give yourself small challenges everyday and be honest to yourself and complete them. Put yourself in awkward situations and remove the fear of getting rejected or losing. Slowly you will start developing the courage which will diminish your self doubt. Just jump in and do it. Either have no expectations about how you'll do, believe you'll do just fine, or believe you'll fail and that's okay. Really doesn't matter. What matters is that you do it. You can't learn or grow if you don't have something to learn or grow from.

Mistakes aren't anything to worry about, unless they are fatal. I have been the happiest and proudest of myself for jumping in and doing things I knew next to nothing about or had very little idea I would/could ever be good at...including parenting, blogging, writing a book, writing poetry. The more you let yourself try, the more you begin to realize that the willingness to try is the only thing that counts. It's not the outcome, it's not being successful at something. You might try something and realize it's not for you or you are not for it. You might do things and wonder if it's really any good.

Complete self-confidence is a myth and over-rated. Self-doubt isn't always a bad thing. It's okay to question how well you are doing something, if it helps you to learn ways to do it better or more creatively. Not so good if you just use it as a tool to beat yourself up. If you're not sure if what you're doing is any good, you can always ask for feedback from others, which you have to take with a grain (or a block!) of salt. Ultimately, who cares? Just do it. Just keep doing it. If you like it, if you love it, if it makes you happy and you think you're meant to do it. Just do it and be your humble self about it.

For months I guess, a bad bitch in my head was scowling at me, You are not good enough because you chose commerce and not science. You are a dumbass because you chose commerce and not science. You will never be able to earn “good-enough” and be happy ever in your life because you chose commerce and not science. You won't be able to achieve anything just because you chose commerce and not science. And I was really like buzz off! Will you? But the list continued, and you know why I felt so dumb and not good enough? Well, because society made me feel that only science students can achieve something great in their life and not students from other streams. I knew then it's not a “fact” it’s just an “opinion” , but I couldn't digest it.

And even for a while, I had sort of accepted my “so-called fate" that I will not be able to achieve anything worthwhile in my life. But it was eating me from inside , I couldn't make myself sit and study with a thought at the back of my mind which says that,”this study won't get you anywhere”. I really wanted to change this, I still had an iota of hope left in me that maybe , not sure but maybe this is all wrong. So I scanned through my go-to social media" looking for commerce-graduates who are have achieved something “worthwhile” and are happy in their life. And the good tidings it brought me was that I found so many of them.

Once I had really thought that people from this particular stream only, could be successful, and I was so fortunately wrong. And now I think, I don't have to possess a “mind of genius" to achieve anything worthwhile. I don't have to be from a particular stream to be “successful” or “happy". I am good enough now and I will be better in the future. Whosoever, I am or whichever stream I belong , I can be “happy and successful” in the end. Cheers!