No Doubt About It!
Louie Bernstein LouieBernstein.com

No Doubt About It!

In the fall of 1985 I laid in a hospital bed in my living room with a broken back. We just spent our life savings on a home addition and I told my wife I was quitting my job to venture out on my own. To help her get through the shock, I tried to sound as confident as possible.

But inside I was asking myself these types of questions: (See if any of them sound familiar to you.)

  • What if I can’t find enough customers to get off the ground?
  • What if I don’t make enough sales to keep the business going?
  • What if I don’t have enough experience? I never did this before. What if I fail miserably and we lose our home?

Did I mention my wife had our second child just 10 days earlier?

While putting on a brave, confident face, I had a ton of self-doubt: The poison of dreams.

? It’s the endless loop of, “what ifs.”

? The never-ending second-guessing ourselves.

? Constantly comparing ourselves to others.

? The endless loop of negative self-talk that spirals us downward.

I’m confident you’ve faced some of this. It’s how most humans are wired.

If you are to succeed, at anything, you need to put all these thoughts in a bottle and put a cork in. Here’s a few things that helped me, and I hope they help you:

First, you need to be honest with yourself. Know that things can fall apart. Your business can fail. You might not get promoted. Maybe a new sales strategy isn’t working.

Next, verbalize and write down the worst possible thing that can happen. Getting it all out there is a relief and calming. Plus, odds are it won’t be as bad as the credit your mind gave it.

Then, have a Plan B and write it down. Pretend you’ll have to use it. You may!

Finally, develop a self-talk script that interrupts the self-doubt thought pattern. Write it down. Voice record it. Read and listen to it first and last thing in the day.

Here’s a few examples you can include in your script:

  • I’ve overcome challenges before and I’ll succeed at this one.
  • I’m good at (insert whatever you do).
  • Every day is a new day, with new opportunities, to succeed.
  • I believe in myself and my potential.
  • I got this!

So, here’s your Action Item and Mission, should you decide to accept it: Doubting yourself about succeeding at something that’s staring you in the face? Put any of the ideas I mentioned into action and stare back at it knowing you’ll do just fine.

And, if nobody else tells you, I will. You CAN do it. And I’m cheering for you.

BTW - The business I worried about went on for 22 years, earned a spot in the INC 500, put four kids though college, and provided a great, albeit rollercoaster life, for our family. You got this.

Do you have any experiences like this? Please let us know in the comments.

Remember, one hand washes the other, and together they get clean. Thank you for reading. Have a really rewarding week and I’ll see you next time.

??If you feel this idea can help others please share it.

About?Louie Bernstein?- Fractional Sales VP

I'm an?INC 500 Winner?for achieving rapid sales growth over a five-year period without outside investment. I specialize in helping?startups?that need proven sales processes and systems to scale their growth and hit their goals.

If you're looking for someone to help hire, organize, optimize, and train your sales team (and who's been where you are), reach out to me at [email protected] .

And, for hundreds of videos that inspire, motivate, and help you sell more, please check out my YouTube channel.

Other Sunday Starters

The Balance Beam

The Present

Cop an attitude

The $1.2 million postcard!

What's old is new. And it's me!

All aboard!

Learn, baby learn

It's a matter of time

100% for you

Try (Your) Patience

Write on

Bend. Don't break.

Time to sail

Determination undeterred

Be an action hero

Age. Less.

Gimme 3 steps

Rumi-nate on this...

Put yourself to good use

The happiness problem

You ARE worthy

Your happy feat

Enough of good enough

Help!

Process this

Heads up!

Carry on

Marcus these words

You're closer than you think

Look up! (...to someone)

What's the difference?

S'more information on success

Need money? Watch this.

You got this!

Just drive on

Motivation revealed

Get outta here

Passion and alignment

The power of 20

I hope so

Focus and flourish

Prepare to win

Your control panel

It's all falling apart!

Truth from Ruth

Ben There. Done that.

Is it time?

The balancing act

A single step

You got this!

Keep on truckin'

Making change

I feel ya

No worries

Magical Mastery Tour

Joy to your world

Give yourself a break

Break the cycle

At your core

Stress less

Sunny side up

The process is the way

I didn't feel like doing this

Let em' laugh

Ready to commit?

Perfect practice

That's interesting

Zone out

Just flow with it

It's about time

Snoozeville

Unplugged

I want that

Stay calm

Head's up

Ain't no stoppin' us

14 minutes to greatness

Yesterday's gone

None of my business

Don't be the schmuck

Mind your mind

Start where you are

Accelerate the inevitable

Do the write thing

Nothing worthwhile comes easy

A moving success story

Don't go up in smoke

Will you commit?

A toxic Rose

Pros or Cons

Don't be chicken

Please, help yourself

I doubt it

Persist!

Thanks giving

Fearless

Snooze and you don't lose

A pill for success

9/11

Turning pro

Keep pedaling

Time to reboot

The why's have it

Hand off the blame

Building resilience

And if you haven't already, get ahead of the game by subscribing to The Sunday Starter. Designed to help you succeed.

The Sunday Starter

#selfdoubt #happiness #persistance

Jeri Bernstein

Brewing profits with words.

7 个月

Great advice! And I say that with all certainty!

要查看或添加评论,请登录

社区洞察

其他会员也浏览了