Dos and Don’ts with Your Hypersensitive Spouse

??? Hypersensitivity is not something to be taken lightly. You don’t meet hypersensitive people every day, but when you do that will be an unusual experience due to their unusual character traits. Sometimes dealing with a hypersensitive person is a challenging experience, but once you are able to understand and grapple with them, you will find out how lucky you are!

??? People who get married to hypersensitive people might not be able to fully understand them, so they need a kind of a guide to show them the way in their marital life, and to help them thrive as couples. Understanding and living happily with a hypersensitive person is not something hard to come by but will be easily attainable when you keep the following tips in mind.

1. No criticism (as much as possible)

Remember that your HS spouse is a strong critic of himself/herself. You just cannot imagine the tumult and turmoil inside their minds! HS people keep on criticizing themselves, that they become by all means intolerant of other people’s criticism. When you criticize your HS spouse, they feel betrayed and unloved.

2. Don’t try to outsmart your spouse

As an HS person, be sure that your spouse has certain skills that enable them to detect lies with accuracy that can surmount professional lie detectors. They make use of their inventory of detection skills to realize your ulterior motives. So, just don’t try your luck with them.

3. Always be supportive

Giving support to your spouse is a frequent advice my marriage therapists, but this advice will be even more crucial when it comes to your HS spouse. Support is required in sickness and in health, or in adversity and in good times. Always give unconditional support. And remember, your HS spouse will always expect this support but will not ask for it.

4. Don’t be shy to ask them for help

HS persons will usually be artistic and will possess some of the most remarkable talents. Your spouse will be very glad to help you in whatever you need. HS persons will gladly enjoy helping their spouses attain their goals and reach their full potentials. He/she will also be glad if you start a conversation with them about artistic or intellectual issues of interest.

5. Mind their love language.

The five love languages theory helps spouses to better communicate. You can know the preferred love language of your HS spouse and use it properly. If this theory is significant for regular couples, it will carry much more significance for marriages where there is one HS spouse. Once you make use of their preferred love language, be sure that will have great communication and will live happily ever after.