Don't we judge people too early

Don't judge a book by its cover.

But do not you think we judge people all the time?

I am a small-town boy and have not seen much of the modern world outside. But, when I first arrived to Delhi, I judged so many people. I did it because I did not know life in modern cities. Though I still do not know much, I have seen or heard quite a good amount of it. While I remembered these incidents, a thought popped up:

?"Why do we want to judge people?"

The answer was not that complex.

See, humans are social beings. We begin consulting the smallest of clues to know someone. But we forget nobody is perfect and there is no reason for us to pinpoint someone's drawbacks. Of which we are not even 100% sure.

Further, we are always ready to identify the situation of others. For example, "a public smoker might look bad to some people. They might think he or she is not a pleasing person and he or she might be having more bad habits."

Another example is very common. "We see a guy and a girl together having fun and chilling around. Chances are we judge them as a couple or might pass weird comments in our minds for some reason."

This is all because of three reasons:

? We don't want to tolerate any such behavior we do not see in our characteristics.

? We are confused about life or maybe frustrated. Happy people affect us. Or we are too emotional to see any intense situation taking place.

? We do not have the same thing in life that others have, and we miss that in our lives. We try to avoid it to compensate our void.

So, is there any way to avoid judging people?

Well, I cannot say that we can completely avoid it at once, but we definitely can and must decrease the amount of judging we do.

First of all, keep in mind that thoughts are not facts. We are never directly involved with the story, and whatever we imagine, it would never be 100% true. Our mind works in different ways based on our past experience, opinions, values, and personality traits too. So, it is useless to predict things about someone else and stick by it and frame an opinion for them.

Second, we do not have all the information. If someone shares their knowledge about a field, you are aware of it. Do not think that you have all the information. There is always something that we do not know.

The third is to cherish people smiling around you. I know there can be hardships in your life, but trust me, the best way to be happy is to cherish people around you. Instead of judging two opposite genders, who were laughing together, as a couple; cherish their happiness.

Hope the above tricks will help you in focusing on "Do not judge a book by its cover" principle.

Feel free to share your thoughts and I would love to hear if you know any more tricks :D !

Peace! :)?