Don't try to be my friend, just be my mum!

Do you have a teenagers in the house?

We asked 15 teenagers age 12 till 16 what ones advice they would give their parents in order to raise happy, confident and independent teenagers. Putting all the answers together this is what we found:

• Back off and give me space’, I do need you but not that much. I will enjoy your company more if you are not ‘in my face all the time’.
• LISTEN, don’t talk or give advice all the time. Would be really great if you could sometimes just listen to what I’m saying, without the need to talk so much.
• Don’t give up on me, yes I know I’m annoying and irritating, but I really don’t know why I do it – so please love me unconditionally otherwise it is just too hard to be a teen.
• I do like to spend time with you, but only if you stop asking me all the questions or interrogate me for what’s happening in my life or trying to ‘sort out things’.
• Does it really matter that my room is a mess? Let it go
• Trust me; I know what I am doing! I need to make my own mistake
• I feel really bad when you do everything for me. I know you are trying to be nice but it makes me really angry that you think I can’t do it myself, I'm almost an adult.
• Don’t try to be my friend that it's soo annoying – just be my mum/dad.

 So if you are a parent to teenagers we hope you got a few tips of how to raise your teenager?

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All the best                                                                                                         The ParentingSuccess Team                                   www.parentingsuccesscoaching.com