Don't be superficial, be unique

Last week I went into a coffee shop with my mother, as we was relaxing and having a coffee two other females came and sat on the table next to us.

To cut the long story short I got talking with them both but had more of a conversation with one of the women who had asked what I do work wise.

After telling her she was interested in my services and we exchange details, then.........

Now bear in mind I have just meet this women for the first time, she asked to take a selfie with me to post on Facebook.

I won't lie, I was completely thrown off for a split second then, I just responded politely by saying 'I don't mean to be rude, I don't do selfies and I am private about my personal life'.

The look on this women face was priceless in a sense; she was shocked I had responded the way I did and justified my answer by saying,

'I always post selfies on my social media profiles', then she began taking pictures of her food.

She then ask if I was on Facebook, which I quickly responded by saying I only had a business profile and directed her to my business page: https://www.facebook.com/helenaphilfitness

She was baffled that I only had a business profile and not a profile and stated. 'But everyone should have a Facebook profile'.

Seriously!

She then concluded by stating that she has had work done on her face which was obvious but more so disturbing so as her pictures can look flawless.

I got in my car and thought to myself wow, society truly is going backwards and I will explain exactly what I mean by this.

The level of communication has gone down the drain in a sense when we have encounters with others, it's not on a human level.

What I mean by this instead of exchanging conversations with someone, the majority now have access to your social media account and would rather spend time scrolling your page to see who you know, your statues in life etc.

Its a bit like a catalogue, you choose your circle of friends to accommodate your statues.

Gone are the days where you contact someone privately to wish them a happy birthday; now the trend is to post it on social media for all to see that you have wished that person a happy birthday, which in my opinion isn't personal.

Talking about birthdays, I have on numerous occasions seen people post their birthday wishes to their deceased parents or loved one.

I to have lost my father but I certainly wouldn't write a post to wish him a happy heavenly birthday besides, its not like his going to jump onto my post and say to me, 'Thanks daughter'.

Instead, I would go to the cemetery and pay my respects and be grateful for the time I had with him.

The moral of this newsletter post simply is; we have become a superficial society that does not embrace humanity and have lacked simple human skills like communication, learning lessons and experiences from one another and making healthy relationships for years to come.

We have replaced it with loading pictures of where we go, food we like, to what we drive and in general showcasing a picture perfect life for people to see the outside pictures believing they are living this amazing life, when in true honesty inside that individual isn't happy within themselves.

This does not come as no surprise that suicide rates have hit the roof, as loneliness in individuals has risen due to life's demands and the burnout culture we reside in.

I couldn't care what someone ate, where they go or what car they drive nor should you, as this is not paying your bills nor placing food on your table.

Yes I am guilty of posting food pics but, I merely do so to promote healthy living as this is my profession.

I recently done a social media detox where I was not active apart from LinkedIn as this is more of a business profile and benefits my business.

The result, I feel like a human and I am more in tune with my souls needs and have attracted new people more on my wave length.

I invite you all to have a break from social media and spend more time with your true needs, not what society and people expect of you and experience the magic?

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