Don't Stop Feeling: Embrace the Full Spectrum of Human Emotions
Dr. Neferiatiti (Holt) Lewis
Sr. Manager of Diversity & Inclusion at EZCORP
Emotions are the lifeblood of our human experience. They color our world, giving depth to our relationships, meaning to our actions, and context to our lives. Yet, today's fast-paced society has an increasing trend to suppress, eliminate, or diminish emotions, particularly those deemed "negative." We are constantly bombarded with messages that encourage us to be happy, upbeat, and positive—often at the expense of experiencing the full range of our emotional spectrum. But the truth is, emotions are energy and must be felt and moved through. Whether joyous, painful, or somewhere in between, each emotion holds value, and by embracing them all, we can live a more prosperous, more fulfilling life.
The Full Spectrum of Emotions: A Human Necessity: Humans experience many emotions—joy, sadness, anger, love, fear, excitement, and everything in between. Each emotion serves a purpose. Joy connects us with others, sadness allows us to process loss, anger motivates us to change what is unjust, and fear protects us from danger. The poet Rainer Maria Rilke beautifully articulated the complexity of human emotions, saying, Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final, a powerful reminder that emotions are transient. They come and go, and we can gain insight and resilience by allowing ourselves to experience them thoroughly, knowing that no feeling is permanent.
Society's Pressure to Suppress Emotions: In modern society, there is immense pressure to put on a happy face and hide signs of emotional discomfort. Social media platforms are filled with images of perfect lives, leading many to believe that happiness is the only acceptable state of being. This pressure can lead to emotional suppression, where people deny or push away their feelings. However, we inadvertently limit our capacity for joy and fulfillment when we try to eliminate or reduce emotions. As the philosopher Alan Watts once said, Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth. By suppressing emotions, we deny a fundamental part of who we are.
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The Beauty of Feeling It All: There is a profound beauty in feeling all our emotions—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Without sadness, joy would lose its luster. Without fear, bravery would be meaningless. The interplay of emotions is what makes life vibrant and worth living. To experience the full range of emotions is to be fully alive. Celebrating moments of joy is essential, as is the ability to sit with discomfort and navigate through it. As Brené Brown wisely notes, We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions. This interplay of emotions keeps us engaged and connected to the world.
Managing Uncomfortable Emotions - A Life Skill: Managing uncomfortable emotions is essential. It's not about avoiding or eradicating them but understanding and processing them healthily. Emotions like grief, anger, and fear can be overwhelming, but they are also influential teachers. By acknowledging and accepting these feelings, we can learn more about ourselves and grow from our experiences. Practicing mindfulness, talking to a trusted friend, or journaling are effective ways to process difficult emotions. It's important to remember that no emotion is permanent, and each one plays a role in the circle of life. Embracing discomfort is not a sign of weakness but a testament to our courage and empowerment.
Never Stop Feeling: No matter what life brings us, we should never stop feeling. Emotions are what make us uniquely human. They add texture to our existence and guide us through life's ups and downs. Embracing the full spectrum of emotions—the light and the dark—ensures we live an authentic and meaningful life. As you navigate the complexities of your feelings, remember to honor them, move through them, and celebrate the journey. In the words of the great author C.S. Lewis, To love at all is to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is at the heart of our emotional experience, and it is this vulnerability that makes life truly worthwhile.
So, don't shy away from your feelings as you move through your days and nights. Embrace them, learn from them, and let them guide you. In doing so, you'll find that life becomes something to endure and a rich and rewarding journey. Remember, it's not just about the destination—it's about feeling every step of the way. Cheers!