"BEing is the seed of doing" - The Ultimate Coach Experience London with Steve Hardison 30.04.2022 - sharing my notes

"Don't be stingy with your BEing", was the ending of a reflection round on the TUEL experience. Therefore I decided to share my notes with whoever finds nuggets of wisdom from.

I had the amazing experience to be in the room with Amy and Steve Hardison and 500 other beautiful human beings during the TUEL – The Ultimate Coach Experience London with Steve Hardison on Saturday 30.04.2022.

If you want to experience abundance, create a setting of abundance

I came early to the reception with the idea to find a good seat and tune into the energy. My expectations were shifted, all 500 people coming to event organized by some 25+ volunteers gathered in the lobby before being let into the room at 10am. The energy was building and the atmosphere was that of a beehive. Really high frequency and joyful anticipation. Gathering in the lobby felt like taking a bubble bath of energy, as there was high energy and everyone I spoke to was grateful to be in the room. I myself had enrolled five people to be there that day and it had the feeling of a wonderful tribe gathering as many people had only met virtually and were now meeting first time face-to-face, like my encounter with my coach Chris Joseph who I had met 40+ times on Zoom and first time in person at the event.

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In the foyer they had placed a five-meter wall to write I AM Statements or the Document as Steve refers to them. While in the morning it felt like a lot of white space, in the afternoon it radiated commitment and gratitude powerfully to anyone embracing it. The idea was a re-creation of I AM Statement Wall in Steves backyard. - See the book "The Ultimate Coach!" for more background.

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The Opening: Alan Thomson introducing Steve Hardison

I did not take any notes in the beginning to be fully present and to be fully in the room. In my recollection Alan D. Thompson, Fiona Ross and a few more people opened the event with a high energy of gratitude and abundance. Thanking Steve and Amy and Karan Ria for accepting to speak at the event and for all the volunteers that were part of the creation. They shared the origin of the idea and how Judy Thureson was part of the US event creation, and being now also in London.

If you want a VIP-Ticket, create an Upgrade!

Alan invited Steve on stage to speak into the room and give a powerful intention for the day.

VIP-ticket thinking: You can choose to sit with a normal ticket or you upgrade yourself to a VIP-ticket. It is your own choice how you experience it. If I hug one person, you can either complain, oh I have been waiting as long as the other person or you choose to experience the feeling of being hugged every time I hug someone. You decide Who you are being.

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Experience Speaker 1: Karan Rai

Steve introduced Karan Rai as a long term client who had spent over 300h in 1:1 coaching with Steve over several years, flying in from New York for every session. He dressed in his "flag" that Steve had brought from Phoenix. Yellow Red and a Big R on it. He treated it with reference and wrapped it around his shoulder for a few minutes, as if it had a magic aura charging his inner being. Karan Rai is physically a big man, with trained muscles and a provocative use of words. If I was to audition for "Master of Univers" he would make it on the list. He is on the path of mastering the game of creation, 150 session Steve over six years and probably a million dollar investment in his coaching do make a lasting impact. His humor and freshness made it playful to listen.

Here a few sketch notes I pinned down:

What you want is not what you really want.?Go deeper.?

Only share experiential truth! – not conceptual truth though an experience that is?connect to an emotional being state.

Wise people learn from experiences of fools.

I have three items to share:

(1)?– What do you really want?

(2)?– Never Defer, never quit!

(3)?– Do Epic shit!

Topic 1: What do you really want?

Speak in Declarations: Use clear powerful language.?

Don’t put lipstick on a pig?

Entire work is about: “I am ok, I am enough!”

Start from: “I already have, what I want!” Abundance mindset

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Topic 2: Never defer, never quit

Why do You defer? – What is the benefit of deferral?

What if, you remove quitting of the table? – Draws out full commitment

Simple truth is most powerful.

Don’t quit when it is hard.

Ask yourself: Is your goal big enough? What do you play small for?

Increase the size of the goal. If you already know how to do it, it is a task. Put it on the To-Do list and do it or delegate it.

If your goals are not big enough, make them bigger. They are goals if you cannot do it alone and you don’t know how to.

It’s about experience: Immerse yourself in the process. Love the process.?

If in doubt: ask WWSD: what would Steve do? Create

Topic 3 : Do epic shit.

Do what has the potential to have epic impact.

HAVE-Goals: If you want to HAVE it, get it quick, do in five years, don’t waste 20 years for wanting something to have. It’s all about being.

Practice uncomfortable: Do little uncomfortable things to experience them. i.E. Take cold shower! Eat something you have never had before. Lean into scary, and train the muscle of uncomfortable and do it afraid.

Let death be a teacher for you.

Experience and find out how great you are.?

Ceiling becomes the floor: Every ceiling is a new floor!

Experience from “antarctica marathon”, incantation

“I am unstoppable force of nature!”

I did not stop the incantation.

Transformation Experience: The guy that started, is not the guy that ended.?

The Doing-dilemma: You can’t out do, who you are being.?

Man’s chief delusion is: there is a cause outside consciousness??

You can only have what is on your level of consciousness. If you are on level 5 you cannot have what is on level 7.

Create the identity first to create the reality.

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Power of identity: Speak in identity: Authors write books.?

Once identity is created the resistance is gone.

“I am an entrepreneur!” – Entrepreneurs create businesses

Start from being, before doing.?

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If your consciousness is abundance, it is impossible to be in scarcity.

If your consciousness is scarcity, it is impossible to be in abundance.

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Be radical: You love it, or you burn it all down.?

I am not highest in IQ, though I am highest in commitment:

What I am upto next: my impossible goal idea: 7 marathons, in 7 days on 7 continents

A fun episode was, when Karan asked Amy to come on stage and express deep gratitude for her being and then he gave her a big hug. Steve got up from his seet. "Steve why don't you enjoy the hug I am giving Amy? ..." joyful laughter in the room!?We are all humans :)

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Lunchbreak

During lunch we had the opportunity to deepen the experience and take a walk in the park with Chris, Michael and Lizzi. Sharing an experience makes it a deeper memorable event.

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After lunch - Speaker 2: Amy Hardison:

After lunch Amy took the stage a read a well crafted speech. Her loving kindness flowed through every word and while she spoke with a soft voice, the energy in the room was of deep presence. In the beginning I let myself be taken by the stories of her live and the pictures of her parents and her upbringing. While in the book the Ultimate Coach some challenges in their 45 years of marriage can be found, have her speak it into the room moved me deeply.

She created an atmosphere of deep loving kindness

She shared her approach he she re-creates loving kindness every opportunity anew by using the following sentences:

-??????What is the most loving thing I can say now?

-??????Find five amazing things I see in my partner.

-??????Where is my growth edge? How can I practice love?

-??????Did I slow down my thinking to the speed of love?

-??????Be curious, not judgmental.

-??????Where can I find a third way?

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A sign of a good act: A good act brings together, rather than dividing.

Choose joy, rather than misery.

The problem is me! transent being right, be accepting.

Be forgiving: “I am forgiving: Forgive well, I forgive quickly!”

Love rubs off! Be Aware that I took a lot of healing to be here now. I am still healing. Be aware that Healing has a cost to it. – it take energy.

Listening is an act of love and healing.

We heal others by BEing.

Experience work around Structural coupling.

Graciousness:

Live graciously, it is beyond fairness.

Key insight: What if the interaction with each other is the real reason why we are here?

If you want to heal, give something close to heart.?

The 14 cows story after 911.

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Speaker 3: Steven Hardison - SFH - Being is the seed of doing

Www.theultimatecoachbook.com

First he thanked Eric Lofhom for creating the webpage

Steve made the intention clear: Read the book “the ultimate coach”, read it about YOU! Sign it yourself, as author of your life.

He shared an insight about the current war:

What if: “TAKING is the seed of conflict/ war?”

What if: a group decides that they will no longer be takers though will be givers.?

Be a giver! Stop taking. Instead Receive gracefully.?– in the giving is that we receive

State of being of receiving not taking.

“Being is the seed of all doing!” “Creation is the fruit of being”

Tow truck driver distinction: story about having a flat try in the desert. Waiting 2hours for the truck driver to come and create it the best tow truck driver experience ever. For the driver and for himself.?

Deciding who I am being and create from there.

Instead of managing your image, manage your being.

Power of Document – extract of the I AM statements.

I forgive myself, I stop judging me

I am creator! I create everything!

I am loving kindness.

The acorn becomes a seedling becomes and oak.

“I don’t have more access to being than you. I don’t have more access to time than you.”?

I own it, but I don’t own. Dry rain.

Love is, I am that.

I am deeply moved by spirit, the power of all creation.

I am not worthy of judging you

And everyone is worthy of my love.

I am gratuitously authentic!?

I am happy and peaceful.

I am connected to infinite intelligence.

I am strong in decision making.

I am gentle with myself.

I am committment to my state of being.?

Stop complaining, be forgiving.

I live, I love, I am

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Acknowledgement:

I thank myself for having made the commitment to be in London at TUEL

I thank my wife to having been with me in London and allow me the space to experience this on my own.

I thank Reema for the invitation to the event. She shared it early enough for me to arrange the travel.

Michael Simperl to travel to London as well, so we created a common memorable event we can refer to with our clients.

Chris Joseph for being the room in person and sharing the big oak experience.

Other participants of the Rich Litvin Intensive to pick up the invitation: Amanda Parker, Sara Rowe to take my spare ticket. Disco Dave and Lizzie to share the energy during the day and for the many other wonderful, magical encounters during this amazing day.

Don't be stingy with your BEing!