Don't Start With Why
Simon Sinek - Start With Why

Don't Start With Why

I’m a fan of Simon Sinek. You probably are too.

You’ve likely watched his TED talk - Start With Why, or read one of his books. He’s one of the most renowned public speakers and thought leaders in the world.

He’s a cultural anthropologist by training, just like myself. ??

Except when it comes to storytelling — you never want to start with why…

Unless you want to quickly lose control of the narrative in a meeting with executives.

“Start with Why” is rarely effective or actionable

Simon Sinek’s framework is genius, it’s just widely misapplied and misunderstood.

The reason? Why looks at the past.

If you “start with why”...Your business meeting will get stuck there.

As in “why did this happen”?

Think about it:

  • Why is a question that can only be answered looking backwards
  • Why is reductive – a “conclusion” others might not agree with
  • Why is an elusive pursuit – it’s often built on false assumptions

Or worse, you’ll waste time debating, diagnosing, defining or defending.

These are worthy pursuits. You just don’t want to start there.

Pro-Tip #1 :Shift the focus to the future

It’s better to focus people’s attention on how we can move forward together.

Rather than focusing on what’s already happened, what can’t be changed…

Want to Get Executive Buy-In? Never Start With Why!

Instead, start with the future first.

Let me give you an example:

One of my private 1:1 clients is the VP at a big tech company.

They needed to present their new “data strategy” to the executive leadership team. Every team had different data needs, competing priorities, and expected a new solution yesterday.

It was all up to this VP to sort it out.

Their first instinct was to start with a diagnosis:

“Why” different teams across the company couldn’t do or get what they wanted with data.

It’s natural to start with the current state, the reasons that got us there. You just don’t want to start there lest you look like someone who is trying to defend or deflect with excuses.

Pro tip #2 - Reframe the narrative for forward momentum

We reframed the presentation to create a momentum of YES.

  1. Re-state the aspirational desire and perceived needs of your stakeholders
  2. Offer a contrast frame to illustrate desired state vs current state
  3. Highlight how desired state reflects a new strategy / company phase shift
  4. Show how current state reflects previous mandate/specs/strategic priorities
  5. Present a maturity model to illustrate where they are on the journey
  6. Focus on the new capabilities and how that will help the company win
  7. Enroll your stakeholders with a CTA to build this shared future together

Notice, this presentation outline included plenty of “why”. It just wasn’t the place to start. Instead, it was used to validate only after the future desired state was well conveyed.

Remember that the next time you go in front of an executive...

Never start with ‘why.’


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Steve Saunders

A better way to run the business of the church

3 个月

As someone who spends my time on Strategic Operations, I always say, "You might start with Why, but let's get to How as soon as possible."

Nuno Moreira

Need help to improve your communication skills? Want to know how to read and then own the room? Storyfeeling might do the trick... | Team Building expert@House of Neverless | Professor@Nova SBE

3 个月

I’d start with “Who must I persuade” and then work out if the Why is important. If the Who likes history let them have it. If the Who loves the future let them have it instead.

Prashant Anilkumar

Product Manager | Writer | Speaker

3 个月

"Start with the future first" seems closely aligned with the "Answer First" approach, where you lead with the desired outcome or recommendation. In the example you provided, this might mean the client begins by outlining their new data strategy upfront. However, isn’t this approach quite different from traditional storytelling frameworks? In storytelling, the narrative typically begins with context-setting, followed by the introduction of conflict, and only then is the solution revealed. While the storytelling method can be powerful, it may not always be suitable for executive-level communication. In high-stakes settings, where time is limited and clarity is crucial, leading with the outcome may be more effective. The audience likely values directness over a narrative journey, making the "future first/answer first" approach practical. Michael Margolis Where would you say the "Start with why" approach works best?

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Harris III

Founder & Managing Partner at Istoria Collective | Top-Rated Speaker | Bestselling Author | Serial Entrepreneur

3 个月

Exactly why one of the reasons my next book is titled, “Start with Wow” :)

Wojtek Kolodziejczak

??Helping Professionals Get More Ideal Clients ?? Award-Winning International Networking Expert ??

3 个月

Great point Michael why' can be a double-edged sword in meetings, especially with executives who want actionable insights

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