Dont Quit, Dont Surrender.....

LinkedIn always asks... What do you want to talk about?

Well... Today, I want to talk about something which has been bothering me since long and more so after yesterday's Suicide incident.

This article is NOT about a certain Suicide or other Stress / Mental Health problem(s). rather, this is about the different Reactions of different people to such actions and symptoms. 

I am amused by all the investigative and judgmental reporting on the TV and Digital / print News. They do all the diagnosis and suggest causes / reasons and always call up friends, neighbors, family members to find out any motive or trigger for any extreme step like that of a suicide. Journalism also dies sometimes in reporting such tragedies. They then suggest as to what should have been done to avoid the tragedy which has already taken place. The worst part is when they reach the family members and thrust mikes in front of them to take “Bites” for their respective Channels. 

I am also amused by the various Copy paste posts on the Social media and many say the same thing in different ways.. which is normally on the lines of “If you are suffering depression or anxiety please free to reach me out. My DM/ home is open to everyone and will try my level best to help you out.” 

Now, how many actually mean this? There has never been any survey or findings on the outcome of such copy pasted messages. How many actually Care? Or they just care about the people who died but not for the people who are living…

So, if you actually want people to say good things about you, wait till you are dead.. 

No media/ Online friends and some offline/ actual friends care about you. They would be the first one to come out on Social Media and announce that how they wish that the concerned person had spoken to them and they would have ensured help… how do we know that this person did not speak with them. These are the same people who do not answer / return calls and do not reply to (delivered and seen) messages…

Most of us, if not ALL of us have experienced some level of stress and depression in our lives and have been coping with it, either through the support of family (very much), friends (very few) or medication / therapy (advised). I have been low myself and have reached out to many Professional / LinkedIn / Whatsapp / Online Friends… but realized later that they volunteer to help only on Social Media. 

The Solution lies with oneself only and one should not depend on anyone else apart from the Immediate family- Parents, Spouse, Sibling - they are the only set of people who are actually concerned. They may or may not help in a proper manner, but their intentions are good (mostly). Solution lies in being strong and remaining positive and optimistic. Learning to cope with failure and coming back strongly should be a motivating factor as well…. I know it is easier said than done. 

Many successful and super Intelligent people do not know as to how to cope up with a setback or a failure in life. Even Army, which used to pride itself on “zero error” syndrome is now receptive to failures in some operations, but the magic is in learning from mistakes and doing well the next time. The best success habit is getting Trained for handling setbacks and failures in life.

The setback could be bad score in a test / exam, bad financial situation, loss of job or in business, loss of reputation (izzat) in extreme case etc..  Have faith that these would also pass like all difficult phases. Never give up. Be positive. Seek solace and guidance from Super Divine Power / God / Universe and have faith that things would be alright. “Everyone who has been born .. has to die” is an eternal truth but why take things in own hands and leave before your time comes. Failures are also part of Success story !!

Just Don’t Quit and Don’t Surrender …  

People in acute stress and depression must Speak with Professional friends, so that they cannot say that “ I wish he/she would have spoken to me, I would have helped definitely”.  Speak with family members and close friends - they may not help, that’s another thing – but, speak You Must. . 

This is not a negative thought passing through my head but in fact it was / is amusing to find repeat and rerun of this temporary helping mode every time a known person commits suicide. There are many out there, who actually need help but they wont get you publicity on Social Media. 

Having said all this, I must acknowledge some genuine people who go out of their way to help the needy, be it a known person or a stranger. But these people won’t be found on social or any other media. More power to them. 

And for those, who are struggling ..

Hang in there, A path will always show!! Just be patient…

PS – This is not about Likes/ comments etc. I just thought of coming back on this platform and sharing something which was/ is going through my head since long but got aggravated after seeing people’s reaction about yesterday’s incident.