Don't love those who avoid/ignore you
Kishore Shintre
#newdaynewchapter is a Blog narrative started on March 1, 2021 co-founded by Kishore Shintre & Sonia Bedi, to write a new chapter everyday for making "Life" and not just making a "living"
Remember one thing what you do to others, it multiplies and returns back to you. Just imagine a situation where you love a person with all your heart and can't resist without that person and that person doesn't bother about your feelings at all. How would you feel ? Obviously bad and you will start to feel that there might be something wrong with you in the case when you love that person madly. I am not saying force yourself to love that person. Love isn't something which can't be forcefully done. So just don't ignore that person’s feelings and instead appreciate them and be good to that person who loves you!
If you can ignore or avoid any person then definitely it's not love, it's something else. In love you never need to ignore anybody. Love is always strength to live whether it's accepted or not accepted. Some notorious people use reverse psychology of ignorance to attract person,but frankly speaking it's not love,it's just lust, attraction & infatuation. Basically, the truth about this answer is that it all depends on what you feel the most comfortable with. While you do not have to reciprocate these feelings, addressing the feelings somebody else has for you, is the right way to go. By having an honest conversation with this individual, letting them know you do not feel the same way, you indirectly help yourself also.
For instance, the fact that you have asked this question makes me think that you are a little conflicted on what to do. If this is really something bothering you, telling this individual how you feel, will stop all unwanted advances towards you. On the other hand, it will help them know how you feel, so they do not keep trying to express those feelings. When it comes to matters of the heart, transparency and communication is always key. That way, both people can move on, and not be misguided in their actions towards each other. At the end of the day, do what is best for you, and makes you feel the most comfortable.
Of course it is okay if you are ready to experience the same for you I mean imagine you have feeling for someone and they ignore you if it feels okay to you than go ahead ignore them but remember you are a beautiful combination of qualities and flaws what if that person ignores your qualities and only focuses on your flaws that sounds mean doesn’t it but its their kindness that they are ignoring your flaws and appreciating your qualities they are accepting you with your qualities and aspirations remember every one has both these options criticising you or appreciating you at same time if they choose to appreciate you than dont punish them for this.
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But what if its the last time that anyone is loving you appreciate their positivity towards you remember we are here only to love and to be loved experience both. As you sow so shall you reap if you break somebody heart at this time the divine will start the cycle and you will end up on the same position you drived that person to love those who love you because they may be praying for you at the time you were not even expecting and You never know maybe they are the reason behind that you are spending time with the people you love.
You dont really owe them any response, but if you don't share their feelings you should tell them so, so they arent wasting so much of their time and energy on you. Its really painful not knowing how another person feels about you when you care so much about them. Ive been on the other side of this situation for over a decade. Unrequited love is so painful, but out of it I learned how to love myself so much that I don't need another person to reflect that love back to me for me to know Im worthy of love. Focusing on this other person kept me from seeing all the love already around me. It would be the right thing to do, to just let the other person down, without the sugarcoating.
Oh please, not really, you do not want to lead that person on, but at the same time it would be decent to recognize that person as someone who sees you as special, appreciates you and cares. be a good human, acknowledge the feelings, be thankful for the compliment, discuss, even if they are unrequited. ?If it is your crush and not a friend to whom you regularly talk to. everyone feels nervous around their crush and will act awkward or avoid them. Because, it's stupid though. We like them then send the wrong signals. It could just be your mind telling you you're not ready to have a steady relationship but you still like looking?. Go ahead be brave try to get more friendly. crack some situational jokes. Don't lose the person you love. Cheers!
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3 年Kishoreji, nice post. Takes time and tide to realise these things. And lots of Grace to give, be, and do Love.
Namaste Kishore Shintré Great share, thank you very much ??