Don't Live or Die with Regret!

I was thirty-six years old, diagnosed with Stage Two breast cancer.

“Am I going to die?” I asked my doctor.

He spoke words that have become my reset button.

He said, “I don't know.” I don't know. In that moment, in that doctor's office, I took those three little words as a revelation.

I realized I had run out of hope. I had run out of time.

I was filled with an overwhelming sense of regret. Not the regret I imagined I would have, the regret for all of the mistakes I believed I had made.

This regret was for the things I hadn't said. That I hadn't done. But mostly for all the things that I would never have a chance to become.

I must tell you; I can still feel being in that room, in that moment of despair. Oh my god, how can it be over? What do you mean I'm going to die? I don't have any more time left.

I hadn't written all I wanted to write. I hadn’t traveled or danced. I hadn't done any of the things that I'd whispered quietly to myself.

I hadn't done any of that because of my belief that I had fallen off the right path when I became a teen mom at sixteen and dropped out of high school.

Because of the false belief I carried into adulthood that success was not for me because I wasn’t good enough. I was not worthy.

That was the day that death became a close reality for me instead of a distant event that would take place far off in my future. None of us as humans consider our mortality until faced with a life threating situation.

However, you don’t need to wait for that day you can learn from my lessons. I made a promise to myself that day, that if I lived, I would never face that feeling of regret again.

No matter what I had to do, I was going to make sure that whenever my final moment came, I would know without a doubt that I had lived unapologetically and completely. I was not going to let fear or self-doubt hold me back.

If you’re reading this right now and are faced with difficult circumstances as many of us are with our career, our business, a job search that seems never ending, where a trip to the grocery store can give you a panic attack and an economy that seems to be in free fall then I hope this will remind you how powerful you truly are.

And that YOU are not ALONE!

My passion behind human soft skills is because when I learned to understand my beliefs…a soft skill I could make better decisions for myself.

I could finally believe that there was nothing wrong with me, that it doesn’t matter where or how you start it’s where you finish.

That I could take charge of my inside voice and know that just because I think it doesn’t it make it true….a soft skill that means I’m in charge of my destiny.

That as my mom used to tell me…. Tammy this too shall pass. I now use this experience as a reset when faced with hard times. As long as I am still breathing, I have hope and never regret!

Be Brave I Believe In You!

?Tammy