Don't Let Your Fears Stop You From Doing Your Best
Ruchi Rathor
?? FinTech Innovator | White Label Payment Systems | Cross Border Payments | Payment Orchestration | ?? TEDx Speaker | Women Empowerment | Influencer Leadership
Introduction
Fear is a natural human emotion, and we all experience it.
However, when fear becomes excessive and overwhelming, and starts to control our lives, we need to do something about it.
In this short article, I'll tell you how you can think about your fears in a new way so that they don't stop you from achieving your dreams.
How much stress do you feel?
Stress is a normal, healthy response to challenges. Without stress, we would not be able to perform well at work or in school and our minds would become dull.
Stress can be positive by improving performance and making you feel confident about yourself or it can be negative by causing anxiety, depression and other mental health issues.
Stress is often divided into 4 types:
However, if you find yourself experiencing high levels of stress for an extended period then you may want to consult a doctor who will help you manage symptoms before they get worse than they already are.
The first step in managing your stress is to identify what it is that causes you stress. This will help you determine if there are any specific things which trigger feelings of panic and anxiety, or if they happen spontaneously without any warning signs.
The next step would be figuring out how much time per day these triggers usually last for. If they go on for too long then it would probably mean that something needs to change so as not to make yourself feel even worse than before.
Write down your fears.
Write down all your fears & if you are having trouble writing down all of your fears, try writing them in a journal or list. This can help you get the ideas out of your head and onto paper where they don't seem so dangerous.
If you need more space than a journal or list can offer, try creating an infographic with all of your fears listed in bullet points or rows.
If nothing else works for you, write down each fear on its sticky note and arrange them into some sort of pattern or design.
What's your worst-case scenario?
What's your worst-case scenario?
What if the worst-case scenario happens?
What would it be like if you failed, and what would you do then?
What would it feel like if you were rejected, and how would you handle that feeling?
How do you think others might react to the failure of your project or idea, and how can you prepare yourself for those reactions (good or bad)?
What's the likelihood of this fear happening?
Think about how likely it is that this fear will come true. How often do you experience the things you're afraid of? If it happens once, how many times after that?
For example, if you are afraid of public speaking and have only done it a handful of times and were fine each time, then there is no reason to think that somehow one day in the future your life would be ruined by giving a talk in front of people.
While this has never happened before and there are no guarantees of what will happen in the future. Common sense tells us that this scenario is unlikely to happen.
This doesn't mean we should completely ignore our fears—we still need to evaluate them so we can decide whether or not they're worth acting on—but generally speaking, if something hasn't happened yet or is highly unlikely to happen then don't worry about it!
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What are you telling yourself to make this fear worse?
To start overcoming your fears, you have to stop telling yourself that you can’t do it. You also need to stop telling yourself that you’re not good enough. And lastly, no matter what stage of life you're at, ask yourself if this is something that's going to make me better.
If the answer is yes then go for it! I promise everything will work out and be okay in the end!
Here are some things I tell myself to make my fear go away and get me out there to do the things I love:
* You have nothing to lose. If it doesn't work out, who cares? At least you tried.
* What if this does work out? That's exciting
* Always remember why you started in the first place, and what your goals are.
Talk back to your fears.
Talk back to your fears.
Instead of letting the fear take over, talk back to it in a kind and supportive way. You might say: "I'm sorry you're afraid of failing, but this is what I'm going to do because my success matters to me."
Talking back in this way helps the fear feel less powerful by giving you control over how you react to it instead of simply reacting based on how much power the fear has over us.
Practice positive self-talk throughout your day by repeating these positive statements aloud or silently in your mind: "I can do this!" and "I am proud of myself for facing my fears!"
Learn about what you're afraid of.
The first step in dealing with your fear is to understand it. What are you afraid of? Why do you feel this way?
The second step is to try and find the root cause of your fear. Is it based on a real threat that may or may not be there today, or was it caused by an experience that no longer has any relevance?
It's important to do this because knowing where your fear stems from will make it easier for you to overcome it later on. If you can't find an answer as to why you're feeling the way that you do about something then there's no point in trying to fix yourself at all!
How can you prepare for your worst-case scenario?
But what can you do to prepare? There are plenty of things, but it's important to keep in mind that your worst-case scenario doesn't have to be the same as everyone else's.
For example, if the worst thing that could happen is that your boss thinks your work isn't good enough, then maybe you need more feedback from other people for this fear to go away. Or perhaps there’s another way out:
You could talk with HR about what kind of training might help and/or ask for some time off so that you can focus on learning and improving your skills (which, by the way, is perfectly acceptable).
Here are some more ideas:
Try relaxation techniques.
The idea behind these practices is that they help your body release tension in the muscles and reduce stress by focusing on your breathing or other aspects of your body such as temperature or heartbeat.
You can control your fears if you want to.
You have the power to control your fears. You can face them, fight them, and learn how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
When you allow fear to dictate your life, you are giving away all of your power. It takes courage and strength to face the things that scare us the most—but it's an important part of growing as a person (and becoming more successful).
Conclusion
Your fears can be overcome. You just have to learn how and then practice using the techniques until they become a habit. This isn't something that will happen overnight, but with time and practice, you can defeat your fears once and for all.
CEO PODSPACE ??? | FORBES EUROPE 30UNDER30
2 年C'est toujours un bon moment de te lire Ruchi!
Director, Synergy Joblink Africa | Talent Solutions
2 年That's spot on! Thanks for sharing!
Head of Partnerships @ Loopcv | I help career coaches automate the job application process of their candidates
2 年What a great post!