Don’t Leave The Education of Your Children to School

I am grateful my dad never left my education to the school system. I can’t just imagine what I would have become if that were the case. He took responsibility for my education. I am grateful for that.

But many of you are not as fortunate as I am. Your parents were in a hurry for you to get off to school and leave them alone. Most parents leave the education of their children to the school system. It's not supposed to be so. The home is the place where children are educated. Whatever the child is taught at home stays with him or her and will never depart.

The values children are trained with at home stick with them throughout their lifetime on earth. School doesn't teach values and neither does it draw out the true essence of a child. The home is supposed to help the child develop her wisdom, strength, and passion, but school buries that deeper by elevations memorization above wisdom, weakness above strength and career above passion.

That's why when students graduate from the University, they are unwise, have low self-esteem as a result of focusing to build their weakness and don't even know what they are passionate about. It has all been buried by layers of classes and instructions that you have to take without question.

The most dangerous and selfish thing parents do to their children is to complete delegate and abdicate their responsibility for the education of their children to the school system. That is why we have adults coming out of the school system who are irresponsible, cannot communicate effectively and think. They accept everything as it is.

Our society is failing today in all sectors because the educational system of the family unit has been left to school to teach. As a result, education is no longer about producing a person of value and character but a person who has good grades or a certificate to show.

What My Dad Taught Me

Some of the lessons my dad taught me informally still stayed with me. When I got to the University, I promised to write a book, MY Father Must Be Crazy, to teach about what I was taught at home versus what school turned out to be. 

Some of these lessons are:

1. Education is Not Restricted to the 4-Walls of the Classroom

This prepared me to always learn things outside of what I was taught in the classroom. As a science student, I read history, literature, government and other subjects that I wasn't supposed to read. In the University, I studied, Mathematics, physics, astrophysics, metaphysics and all kind of topics unrelated to engineering. 

2. No Knowledge is a Waste

My dad didn't force any religion on us kids. He allowed us to decide what we want to be and who we want to worship. Don't get me wrong here., He is a Christian of course. He bought books on the Bible and Koran. He wanted us to expand the context of our mind and not to be fanatics, but to be people to accept everyone. Everything we read today can be useful tomorrow and that's exactly how it has been for me.

3. There is no Holiday in Education

When I was younger, in primary school, my dad will take us to the library and drop us during the holidays. We will be there from 9 am to 4 pm. We are to read anything we want to read. Even though school is on holiday our brain is never on holiday. That helped me to spend more time reading and learning new things even when other people are on holiday.

4. A Stitch in Time Saves Nine

My dad repeated this more often to get us to act in time and not to procrastinate. If we don't act in time, we will be wasting the time we will use for something else later or even tomorrow. If we don't do what we should do now, we won't be able to do what we are supposed to do tomorrow. This has made me believe that whatever needs to be done should have been done yesterday.

5. You are a Slave of Whoever Think for You

This lesson helped me a great deal. My dad doesn't want to hear you say somebody said, he always wants to know your opinion. He taught me how to think for myself. He was never judgmental. He allowed is to play and learn. He believes that if you allow people to think for themselves, they will be their own people.

6. Fail Honorably, Don't Pass Exams by Cheating

My dad advised me to go and sleep if I feel sleepy when reading. He told me that if you don't know the answer to a question but your friend next to you knows, don't copy his own. I have never had about people failing honorably until he told me too. There is no pride in copying another person's work to pass.

7. When you succeed Women will Come

Like every teenager, I want to pursue the girls, but then he called me and said that only people who are not successful run after girls. That's girls are attracted to success. If I will spend my time preparing and working to become successful, the ladies will come and I can pick from them.

What did your dad teach you in the form of education that has stuck with you? Share in the comment.

Dimeji is the President/CEO of 1st Millionaire Maker Nig Ltd www.1stmillionairemaker.com