Don't judge their path if you haven't walked their Journey.

Despite our best efforts, we all judge others. It might be over small things, like a co-worker who took too long of a lunch break. Or it might be over bigger issues, such as a person who behaves selfishly or hurts our feelings.

Why do so many people feel the need to make fun of and judge others?

I wonder why we, as humans, feel the need to judge and degrade others.

It’s human nature to compare ourselves to others, whether it’s to our family members, peers or even celebrities we see in the media. We base our judgments of ourselves and others on these comparisons.

Judging others sometimes gives people a sense of prestige because demeaning others can create a false sense of security and identity.

When it comes down to it, people are different. No two people are completely alike. We need to accept these differences and stop judging people. It is hurtful to them and makes the people ridiculing them look bad.Even if one does not verbalize their judgments, it does not mean their insensitive thoughts are acceptable.

It goes with the saying: If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

What will it take for people to accept others for who they are and not make fun of them simply because they are different from themselves or what society portrays to us as normal? This question may never be answered.

I hear people say things about others all the time without consequences and this encourages them to continue getting their laughs through other peoples’ pain. It’s hard to listen to, but it can be stopped.

Who are we to judge how others act, look, dress or who they hang out with? To make fun of a peer is immature and shows people around you that you are close-minded.

Don’t judge people for the choices they make when you don’t know the options they had to choose from.

Don’t judge people harshly if you don’t know them well. But why usualy Judge others

Here are 4 Reasons We Judge Others

1- We are insecure. 

This is the main reason we judge. When we are insecure and/or unhappy with who we are, we try to put other people down. Though it doesn't usually build us up when we put others down, we do it anyway. We want to feel good by making others feel bad. 

2- We are scared. 

Often, when we're scared or intimated by other people, we'll put them down. Coworkers band together and make fun of their boss . Two women see a prettier woman as a threat and they make fun of her outfit. When people are scared, they try to feel better by putting others down. We also may fear those who are different from us and may judge them just because they are unlike us. 

3-We are lonely.

 As I mentioned before, there is a bonding element that goes along with judging others. When you are lonely, you might use judgments to bond with other people, but these bonds are based on negativity. The bonds you have based on judging others are superficial and are not likely to contain true substance. 

4-We are seeking change.

When we want our own lives to be different, we are quick to judge the lives of others. For example, if someone wants to be in a committed relationship and his friend gets engaged, he might whisper, "Oh, that girl is so not right for him. I don't know why they're getting married." If we are jealous of others' changing lives we are likely to make quick judgments.

Always remember, treat others how you want to be treated.

Now , Knowing the above I need to tell you how bad Judgments could be

Here I will list 4 Things Judgments Do

1-Hurt other people. 

This might not always happen. If the person never finds out what you said, you're in the clear, right? Not necessarily. Things have a way of coming back and hurting people in unexpected ways.

Think about what you say. Would you say that to his/her face? If not, it's probably best left unsaid (and un-thought!). 

2-Make you feel worse about you.

 When you judge others , you feel bad afterward. You don't feel good about yourself. You might get a tiny rush from the judgments, but, ultimately, you feel guilty. You think you're a bad person for casting such harsh judgments on others.

You bring yourself down when you bring others down. 

3-Put negativity into the world. 

No matter what you way you rationalize your judgments, they are not bringing anything good into the world. They bring others down. They bring you down. They make the world a more unhappy place.

Can you imagine if we were all accepting and loving of one another? Can you imagine what the world would be like if we tried to understand other people rather than judging them? 

4-Encourage you to judge yourself. 

If you're judging others, you're probably judging yourself pretty harshly as well. As for me, I know this is the case. For example, I judge what other people wear, and, as a consequence, I'm extremely concerned with what I wear.

I spend quite a lot of time on my clothing and appearance and I bet I would do this less if I didn't judge others so harshly.

I hope the above made you convinced enough to start getting ready to work more on yourself and give up the habbit of Judging others.

However to make it easier I will give you 5 Effective Ways To Stop Judging

1-Monitor your thoughts.

Think about what you thinking about. I often go along thinking things about other people, judging them, and I don't even realize it. I'm going to work on paying more attention to my thoughts and do my best to push them in a positive direction.  

2-Look for the positive.

? Judgments are negative. There is almost always something positive you can find in someone or something. While my mind might immediately focus on the negative, I can push my thoughts in a more positive direction and look for something nice to say. And, of course, if you can't find something nice to say, don't say anything at all. 

3-Stop judging yourself.

It's not all that easy to do, but the more we judge ourselves, the more we'll judge others. I judge myself a lot and I need to work on that. I need to focus on the positive aspects of me and then it will be a lot easier to focus on the positive aspects of others. There's no reason to be so hard on myself and I'm going to really, really work on this one. 

4-Focus on your own life. 

When all else fails and judgments are hard to push away, focus on yourself. Don't worry about what other people are doing/wearing/etc. Think about your own life. Focus on what you want and go after it. When you're trying to avoid your own problems, it's easy to criticize others. Don't. Think about you and focus on the good things. 

5-Remember how it feels.

 Remember how it feels to be judged. AND remember how it felt the last time you judged someone else. It doesn't feel good to judge or to be judged so put an end to it right now. I'm going to work on remember these feelings the next time I feel like a negative thought about someone else is cropping up.

Don’t judge people for the choices they make when you don’t know the options they had to choose from.

See you Tomorrow with Way #41

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ABOUT MARWA ABD EL AZIZ

Marwa is a pioneer and expert in developing projects to build revenue, profits and corporate visibility with extensive experience in all facets of projects starting with site identification, developing and overseeing the implementation of the feasibility plans for projects; actively participating in the various financial analysis, acquisition, master planning, design review and tendering.

She is in the UAE Property Development industry Since 2001 during which she has coordinated all administrative activities pertaining to construction projects with an overall budget exceeding 5 billion.

Marwa holds an Architectural Engineering degree, PMP and Master in Project Management from the American Academy U.S.A.

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