Don't hold on to those who treat you badly

Basically those toxic friends will make you feel that you are worthless. They will criticise you or put you down almost all the time. They will bitch about you to everyone. They will spread rumours about you creating a bad impression of yours in front of other people. They will never adjust and act bossy all the time. They will always stick around you whenever they need you but disappear when you need them. They don't care about your problems at all. They will participate in all your happy moments but not the sad ones. They will leave you when they are with other friends.

They will make you feel left out . Even on your special days they will make you feel left out and awkward. They are always jealous of you. Never happy with your happiness. They will break your trust again and again. These kind of people are not at all trustworthy. You will always feel that you are not good enough when you are around them. They are not good for your mental health. They take you for granted and are not afraid to lose you. They will ignore you when they don't need you. They have problem with all your other friends and don't like them as well. Whenever you complain about the things happening, they will act as if you have hurt them.

Such people are not worth your time. They will take up all your energy. Leave such people. Don't hold on. The only way to deal with toxic friends is to take leave of their company. They are not going to change. Toxic friends weigh us down in many ways, mentally and physically. The damage they inflict on people can be quite serious and permanent. They best course of action; find new friends! This isn’t as easy as it sounds. Toxic friends will put a lot of pressure on you and may cause you to be alienated, bullied, and generally miserable.

In my childhood I went to a different school. The school was small, so you were either the “cool group” or you would be shunned for the next couple of years. I soon left and came to my current school, much larger. Here, I was lucky enough to find a group of “nerds” who, like me, wouldn’t be considered “cool”. We aren’t very sporty, but we excel academically. We are not very social, many of us introverted. We take part in a smaller school band. Personally, I know that toxic friends are hard to avoid and break ties with. I suggest finding others like you, because the group is stronger than the individual. Then you confront those toxic people. Don’t just disappear, tell them why you dislike them and formally close the relationship.

As said earlier I've had a toxic friend/ school classmate, we did assignments together, had calls on almost everything and anything but I realized my friend was a bit too negative for my liking. I'll tell you what I did. I've never been this person to stand up to people and tell them what's wrong with them. I usually pass it off, cause they've been good friends at a point. Of late I realized that these people were a drain on my energy and of my time. I told my friend very politely that I would really appreciate it if my friend was more positive and I wouldn't want to continue a friendship if it was this toxic.

My friend did get the point and did try changing after almost a year. I still don't speak as much as I used to but it's just for the good. As hard as it is, you distance yourself. Toxic people hurt everyone around them eventually. And if you hang around them long enough, you're bound to become one yourself. If you must be around them, keep your guard up, don't trust them with secrets, and be willing to confront the negative behaviors you see.

How do you differentiate between a toxic person from a normal one? Doesn't give a fudge about you. Will take you for granted a lot. Only has you for personal gain. Doesn't ask you anything unless it's going to benefit him in some way. Calls you only when he has nothing else to do. Has other friends like you. But has you on his speed dial because nobody's got time for a human turd. Will want you to celebrate for his achievements but won't give a fudge about yours. Will never want you to be part of his huge friend circle. You are just the dumping ground for his garbage. Will take money from you and never pay you back.

Will always make you wait. Whenever you ask for his help, will switch off his cellphone and go underground. Whines like a bitch. If you decide to meet up, will cancel without informing you. You'll wait and wait and wait till your pubes turn white but he ain't gonna show up. And if you call him, the cell phone's going to be unreachable. Will always be jealous of you and your success. Will lie to you a lot. If you have money problems, he would never offer help.

Will leech on to you and suck the life out of you. Will want you to suffer if he is suffering. Would be ashamed of sharing his problems with you. Your secrets won't be safe with him. Won't help you in crisis. Instead will watch you get fudged from a distance with a large bucket of popcorn. Will think of you as an inferior species. Behaves differently with you as compared to others. Will try to show you how much of a nice guy he is. Make you work for him or help him in a personal endeavour by emotionally manipulating you. Take sole credit for everything you have done as a team. Ignore you in front of his other friends. Will always try to one up you personally and professionally. Will destroy your life if you don't get rid of him.

These are some of the points that will help you recognise a wolf in sheep's clothing. I am judging myself for not throwing that fudging leech out of my life sooner. Anyway, if your friend has more than 5 of these attributes get rid of him ASAP before he wrecks havoc. Trust me. He will. You know, being innocent and humble is the part which doesn't seem to be respected in this modern world. I was somehow good at Studies than many others, but I couldn't attend the classes regularly. Because the environment felt like a poisonous gas to me.

I was just like 14 when I came across mates who were too much toxic to ruin someone's life. Most of them were abusing, most of them were bully. I was just a child to take any serious action. Besides it was just school life. I reached class 11th after having a lot of it. I had some true friends of mine and they both left school at 10th. So now I was completely alone. And within the two years of 11 and 12th, I came across mates who hated me for who I was. A bit smarter than them in terms of studies and English language. I was alone against them all. I tried to mingle with them but it couldn't be. May be because I wasn't one of them. I tried to be friends with them. But I found that they have grown too much hate towards me.

I would hardly attend 4–5 days in a week. I was sick of it. My life was going on a wrong direction and it seemed to me like nothing in life is good for me. But as soon as my 12th was over. I got rid of those mates. And most of those boys failed. I passed. I started to learn many new things. I bought a sports motor bike that time. Which added to my happiness and exploration. Now I'm In college, and for the first time it feels like I'm around the people I deserve. We enjoy, have fun, and learn together.

In conclusion; I had almost lost myself during high school. Life was pain around those toxic mates. I was completely lonely. But now in college those entire scene portraits in front of me as a tragedy. I'm now sure that there are people who are like you and gather vibes from you. Tips: Always priority yourself. Like I said, regardless of my environment I kept moving forward to better days. I had a strong hope that I'll be happiest somedays. I was unique, and I maintained that attitude. I couldn't change those who hated me, but it was upto me whether how to react on them. Cheers!