Don’t Depend On Anyone ....

As the saying goes: you come into this world alone and you depart from it alone.

Living alone can help you find the time to work on your most important relationship — the one you have with yourself.

Until you live alone for the first time, it’s pretty common to spend most of your time in the company of others. When you focus on maintaining strong connections with friends, family, and romantic partners, though, your relationship with yourself might take a backseat.

When you are going through hard times, finding inspiration is tough.

Trust me when I say that everyone has been there – even successful people.

Even so, you have the power inside you to achieve. You just need to get out of the funk you’re currently in.

The fact is that our world exists within a sad reality. We are completely alone in this world and anyone that tells you otherwise is simply lying to you or is too ignorant to understand what it is they are truly saying.

You yourself are the only person that you can and ought to rely on. You may say to yourself that you have friends that are there to support you and that you have family that is there to help you when you need help.

This may be true, but it does not change the fact that when push comes to shove and the end is nigh, you are alone — completely.

The sooner you come to accept this statement, the sooner you can begin to rely on yourself for all it is that you need from life. Friends are very important in our lives and if we are lucky enough they love us.

If you were to tell me that your friends would be there for you if you called on them, I’d believe you. If you were to say that your friends will always be there for you 100% of the time and would sacrifice anything for you, then I’d have to ask you if you were serious.

There will come a time, sooner or later when your friends let you down — no matter how good of friends they are, they are bound to let you down at least once during the duration of your friendship. This is only human nature; we all make mistakes and poor decisions from time to time.

Even if your friends were to always have your back and be there to support you, you have to keep in mind that they have lives of their own.

If you imagine life and death situations — the most serious of situations — how many people do you know that would risk their lives for you?

?How many do you know that would sacrifice their lives for yours?

The answer is zero. The fact is that there will always be a circumstance under which your friends will let you down. If there is at least one situation in which your friends would not be there for you, then you should conclude never to rely on friends.

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Thank you ...If you can’t rely on something 100% of the time then you should not rely on them ever — by definition, they are not entirely reliable. The only people that you could arguably say may consider giving up their lives to save yours are members of your family — most likely one of your parents. Parents share a bond with their children that at times can be extraordinarily strong.

But again, we are not contemplating over whether our parents would risk their lives for us, but rather whether or not they are entirely reliable and therefore deserve to be relied upon. Of course, the answer is again no. I am sure that you have plenty of examples yourself as to why you can’t always count on your parents.

The reason why human beings are unreliable is because we are egocentric creatures. In our world, we are the center of it. Everything we know and experience involves our existence. Our mental properties are focused on us and always put us ahead of others. This is not to say that you cannot put someone else ahead of yourself —

When things are important then we can easily put someone’s well being ahead of our own. However, if we don’t give the particular event importance — even if it were to hold importance for the other person — then we are unlikely to focus on that other person and will automatically hone in on our own wants and needs instead.

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We are built to survive on our own, yet simultaneously could not stay sane if isolated indefinitely — we both need and don’t need other people. Nevertheless, one ought to learn how to rely on oneself and not on friends and family. There will come a time when they let you down or are no longer there to lend you support.

Learning to stand on your own two feet all the time will make it easier to stand alone when things get ugly and there is no one there to help you; it could mean a matter of life or death, if not of your body then of your sanity.

This is not to say that we shouldn’t ever ask for help — we should ask as often as possible. However, we must be ready to take on any burden ourselves if that is the only possible solution.

Depends on what you want help with and what you're putting in their hands.

For your health you go to a qualified doctor, for matters of the law a reputable lawyer, right?

We don't have to be self sufficient meaning do everything ourselves. But we can be self sufficient in observing and checking things out first.

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In life we all know people who advise on this and advise on that and the same thing they advise on has gone down the crapper in their own life! you can think that's because they didn't follow their own advice or you could talk to someone who is living their example.

Trust everyone to show their truth, because they do. We just apply filters to see and hear what we want to see.

Try to talk to people who are going through what you're going through- sometimes talking in a help group of strangers is easier than a relative or friend.

And, once someone shows you who they are and what they are about, from that first time you notice it, believe them. Don't give them the chance to make you filter out their crappy behavior because you’d prefer not to see it.

If they are genuine, they will show you and you will know it when you see it.

Nobody said life was going to be easy. What you’re going through is hard. Yes it is.

Accept it and decide that the harder things get, the harder you will work to make things better.

Plus, the tougher you will be. You can overcome anything with determination and time.

It’s not about what you want – it’s about who you become during the journey.

When half the world is trying to be self sufficient, it's such a good thing that you don’t have to rely on anyone for anything.

When someone's helping you with your problems you'll start relying on this ‘someone’ throughout your life in most of the cases.

I think we hope that a relationship will make us happier, but there should be a basic level of happiness and life satisfaction that everyone is capable of achieving on their own.

So maybe the phrase should be 'don't totally rely on anyone else for your happiness'.

Relationships end. Partners leave or die. At the end, you've got to be capable of being happy with or without a spouse.