Don’t Create a Collection of Red Flags
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Don’t Create a Collection of Red Flags

How many red flags do you need to decide that someone needs: to be moved to an outter relationship ring, written up, counseled, let go, coached, mentored, or moved on completely from your time, energy and any rent space in our heads.

Here are 15 red flags to consider when making any corrective action decisions.

Red Flags to Consider: Lack of sincerity

  1. Lack of care (deeper than sincerity)
  2. Lack of respect
  3. Not dependability
  4. Track record
  5. Verbal, vocal, visual misalignment
  6. Missed deadlines
  7. Broken trusts
  8. Late
  9. Flippant attitude
  10. Conflicts with others
  11. Short fuse
  12. Poor listening
  13. Takes too many breaks
  14. Recurrently slow to respond to emails

Heard someone once say, “I can help you out, or, I can help you out.” If you are experiencing these behaviors chronically from someone in your personal or professional life, how long will you go and how many red flags will you collect before action is taken? Whether it is a friendship, dating romance or workplace drama, don’t get in the habit of collecting red flags!

Much love,

Dave

Steven Buescher

Empowerment Speaker-author of The S.C.A.L.E. model for personal empowerment. It emphasizes Self-Awareness, Confidence, Action, Learning, and Emotional Regulation as the core pillars of empowerment.

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The red flags listed signal more than inconvenience—they show deeper issues affecting team dynamics, trust, and productivity. It’s not just about how many flags pile up, but understanding the human experience behind them. What are you feeling in response—frustration, exhaustion? These emotions call for boundaries or action. Also, ask what the person may be facing—are they overwhelmed, lacking support, or disengaged? Before labeling them, explore how you can help. If they resist or continue, taking action—whether counseling or letting go—should come from clarity, knowing you've sought understanding first.

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