DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND RELATIONSHIP ABUSE: Bad Economy Partly Responsible (PART4)

Lets say the obvious; bad economy, economic crunch, economic depression, economic recession, economic doom, - whatever name we call it has been with us in Nigeria for years and we are still living in what we regard as a precarious economy.

??????The downturn times in our economy has contributed in no small measure to the fall of our country’s marital life. If you permit me, at the Centre for Marital Affairs (CMA) in collaboration with House of God Fellowship Church (HGF), we have classified marriages into nine (9) distinct categories, namely;

1.?????wife or husband of a business manager, business director, civil servant or politician – these are top level wives and top level husbands

2.?????wife or husband of a very busy man or woman entrepreneurs in business or in trade

3.?????a complete housewife who depends totally on her husband for everything

4.?????a working class housewife or husband who gets up early in the morning, go to work, and return in the evening

5.?????a housewife running a business of her own and her husband is working

6.?????a husband and wife managing business together or trading in business together

7.?????a wife of a jobless husband

8.?????a wife who is a student and her husband is working

9.?????single mother wife?

?????Each of these classifications has its own unique characteristics and impact. When there is marital violence and relationship abuse, one marriage category or the other suffers most, even endures more than the other, or terribly crushed more than the other, etc. For example, husband and wife who are at the lowest ebb of life in terms of economic/financial power, poor educational background, or no education at all will almost inevitably suffer marital violence and abuse much more than marriages of educated and economically powerful categories.

??????In recent times, wives or husbands that are educated and have a bit of community influence and perhaps some sort of economic and financial power have been faced with marital violence and abuse. The outcry of the society has been high in condemnation with strong advice that the victim should walk out of the marriage. This walk-out option may not be an ideal recommendation or advice to marriages that are at the lower ebb of economic/financial power, lacking in influence in the community where they live, or could not attract sympathetic intervention from the community, as well as with poor or no educational background. The question that is begging for an answer is this:

The wives of artisans, wives of drivers, wives of construction workers, wives of factory workers, wives of security guards, wives of truck pushers, wives of carpenters, wives of motor park touts, etc who got married directly from their village of nativity with or without any form of educational background (perhaps with only primary six or secondary school certificate), who are suffering unprecedented marital distress, do we expect this class of husbands or wives to walk out of their marriages or advice them to call the police for their husbands or wives in cases of marital violence and abuse ?.

????????So the solution actually lies in marital education before anyone takes on the journey of becoming a husband or a wife. We need to have a system whereby husband and wife (to be) would be thoroughly educated on issues of marital duties, marital responsibilities, marital obligations, marital rights, and marital privileges. And in my view, churches, and related NGOs together with the media can champion this course. Churches are close to the entire grass-root community of humans all over the world, so they are in a position to assist in this regard.

????????As for Center for Marital Affairs - CMA (www.centreformaritalaffairs.com) in collaboration with House of God Fellowship Church – HGF (www.hgflivingchurch.com), we pledge our commitment.

PS: For those who sent in emails or made phone calls to ask for direction to House of God Fellowship (HGF)………..the righteous living church where people worship God with peace of mind, here below is the direction to our location:

Enter a bus or arrive from anywhere to Ajah, move on to Abraham Adesanya roundabout, come down there or drive from there to Ogombo Town; or enter keke from Abraham Adesanya to Ogombo Town, drop at Redeemed bus stop, drive on or take okada straight to the end of the redeemed road, then ask of House of God Fellowship Church. Call this number if you need help – 08050880359.You will be very happy to be part of this church. The church is indeed a home for the resolution of marital issues.

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