Does Your Kids Hide Their Activities From You?

Have you ever faced this situation that your kid has started hiding so many of his activities from you?

What was your reaction that time?

How many times did you scold your kids for their wrong actions?

Yes, this happens with all of us as a parent. But what is the reason? Why this increase as the kids started growing?

Kids are the most innocent gift of GOD we are blessed with. They are very honest, humble and they share whatever they feel like or whatever they do everyday happily with their parents all the time because they know their parents are always there to listen to them without any judgement.

As they grew up, along with parents they start sharing with their friends too. It’s very normal.

One fine day, in his teen age kid does something wrong unknowingly and he enjoyed it a lot say- watched movie bunking school. And he happily shares with you as his parent. What would be your reaction? Will you happily accept it? Will you scold him?

Yes, in majority of the cases.

Next time again, he does something wrong unknowingly out of excitement say- missed class and played football in school ground only and he shares with you once he is back from school.

 What will be your reaction?  Angry? Sad? Upset? Scolding?

And one fine day your kid stops sharing with you and you thought he stopped doing all such stuff and you are happy here.

But actually, he did not stop doing those activities rather he stopped sharing with you, due to the fact that you stopped listening to him and started rejecting him and scolding him.

This leads to low self-esteem and low confidence in our kids and from here onwards they start developing poor image.

One parents start rejecting their kids at home , kids start sharing all with their friends , because they know their friends will never scold them as they are of same age and they will listen to them, rather support them (out of innocence only and unknowingly its impact later on)

How to Handle this situation?

Instead of rejecting them while they are sharing innocently as they normally do, we as parent must listen to them calmly without judging them or rejecting them. By doing this, you are ensuring that your kids are still comfortable sharing with you everything everyday despite of their growing life phase adolescent, teenager and so on and you are also winning their confidence as usual.

Later, with very polite manner you can make them understand that he did right by sharing with you as they do every day but what he did that specific act is not right for him ,this can harm him in so many ways and making them understand its bad long time impact on them and re-emphasizing the importance of values that you as parents inculcated in them like honesty , integrity, respecting others and doing right things etc.

Always make them understand in very polite manner as they are kids and they don’t long term know impact of bad habits on them.

By doing this you are ensuring so many benefits like

1)     Their confidence level will boost

2)     Their Self-image will not get impacted

3)     You will remain their best friend forever.

4)     Your core values will remain intact

5)     Your bond will grow stronger.

Make sure you are your kid's best friend as you are the best person to guide them, no one else can do the job better what you can do as Parents.