Do You Want to Stand Out in a Crowd?

The one thing people enjoy more than talking about themselves is hearing about what others think about them. What can I say, we all have egos and want to be liked and admired. We like to stand out for who we are and what we know.?

How would you react if at a networking event someone asked you if “you wanted to know what they noticed about you?” It starts with curiosity and a sense of wonder. How am I coming over to this person? Your first response might be “what” or this is a little creepy, but you will want to know.

It would certainly get your attention. This simple question would cut right through all the small talk and create a sense of intense interest or wonder. It would feed you ego, but there might also be a sense of what do they see in me. Is it bad? Do I have something sticking in my teeth?

It would certainly add uniqueness to the conversation and make you at least a little vulnerable. You stop thinking about what you were going to say and switch focus on the answer they will provide.

Most networking event conversations tend to be shallow and predictable. They start with the basics, who are you, what do you do. Oh, that’s interesting. Often, we have met before and have previous knowledge of the other person. In these cases, we spend time rehashing what it is we already know about each other.

But this question begins a process that is unique and totally different. You reluctantly answer “yes” and here is how the conversation might go. Me: I might comment on whatever my first impression was about you, for example, “You have such great energy, you’ve got to be a podcaster!” ?Or “You’re the best dressed person here, you’ve got a great sense of style.” Perhaps, “You speak so articulately, I could’ve sworn you’re a lawyer.” The funny thing about this is: I don’t have to be right. Even if I’m wrong, you will still be curious about why I perceived you in that way. It’s simply an observation. The key is to not make negative assumptions or statements, always keep them positive.

You will stand out in the crowd and be remembered for sharing your impression or observations. The exchange provides several points for comment or discussion and is much more interesting then the old “what do you do” line. Give it a try at your next event and let me know how it works for you.