Do you want to leave a mark or a scar?
Willis Langford
HR Director | Talent Management | Inclusion | Author | Life Enthusiast | Learning Architect | Leadership Coach | Servant Leadership | Speaker
Right from the beginning we humans have been taught and trained to work for a living, work hard in order to grow and ultimately to leave a legacy that is worth remembering. In this quest of searching for greener pastures, for doing something different or doing something that no one has ever tried (by venturing into virgin territories), we may end up pushing so hard that we may rub people the wrong way, cause misunderstandings and probably create barriers that would last longer than we think. So what is our aim? Are we trying to build a career for ourselves? Are we trying to grow faster than the others? Or are we doing all of these forthcoming activities at the cost of hurting the other?
So the question really is, are we making a mark for ourselves or are we making a scar in people’s lives, that would stay permanently, perhaps like a tattoo or a birthmark?
Here are a few of my thoughts on situations that could challenge us to reflect on whether we are making a mark or causing a scar:
I am reminded of a real-life story of a young, handsome teenager who went into depression and never returned to the vibrant star that he was. All this change came about overnight when he discovered a letter written by his father to his employer seeking a transfer back to his family due to his son’s ‘mentally challenged’ situation. The father actually gave that as a mere excuse to return from a transfer (from another city that he was not happy with), but unfortunately wasn’t alive to convince his son the reason behind his letter. It made a scar in this boy’s life as he continued to ponder on an unanswered question - “Why did my father say this?”
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Life is about building relationships for a progressive society - whether at home, with our friends or with our colleagues at work. Each of us have unique talents, thoughts, perspectives and interests that could add great value to final outcomes.
We may want to be like ‘crepe tape’ that can bind, be used for mapping and perhaps a great help while we paint and yet be easy to peel off after the job is done.
Likewise, being there for our family, friends and team members at the right time to accelerate mutual success through collaboration is key to making a mark and not causing a scar in the lives of many !
This article is written by?Willis Langford. An unbiased, result driven & passionate HR professional who has a flair for technology and keen interest in making this world a better place with a zest for life.
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2 年This article is so on point. I like the examples used too. Thank you so much..
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2 年Thanks Willis for the article. It hits home for me as it is my personal goal to be a value add to whoever crosses path with me.
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2 年Very well articulated and insightful , cut to the point strategy I liked in your writing Willis Langford
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2 年Love this
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2 年It can be hard to know what leaves a mark and what leaves a scar with others. One of my favorite sayings is we judge ourselves by our intent and others by our impact. I especially appreciate your comments and recommendation on empathy. Because I know when I'm truly practicing empathy, I'm am listening to understand others and then hopefully I am adjusting my behavior to leave a mark, not a scar. Thanks for this thoughtful article Willis. I know you always leave a mark with me!