Do You Stay Silent to Avoid Conflict?

How many times have you stayed absolutely silent when someone hurt your feelings, when someone crossed the line?

How many times have you ignored a behavior because you didn’t want the discomfort of a disagreement?

How many times have you tried to convince yourself that you weren’t upset and you weren’t angry?

Do you ever feel like you put your?foot in your mouth??

At?some time or another we’ve all?found ourselves in?situations that cause us to say something without meaning to.?Maybe we made a?joke that ruined a special moment or made a careless comment.

The truth is, there are times when it is better to stay quiet in order to avoid unnecessary?conflict.

There are some?situations when it’s just better to listen than speak. Many times,?staying out of the conversation allows you to better understand those?who are taking part in it.

This is because you can observe their gestures and how they express themselves.?Often, staying quiet is quite beneficial, and?in these seven situations in particular, it’s best to hold your tongue.

People like to?gossip, it’s as simple as that.?It may seem entertaining and fun, but don’t fall into the trap of talking about others.?

The next time someone talks about your friends or someone you know, avoid making any comments.?Just listen and you will learn a lot about not only?the person who is talking, but also who they are talking about.

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Thank you ….If they ask for your opinion?about the person they are criticizing, the best thing you can do is either stay quiet or say something along the lines of “I believe they are doing the best they can.”

Although it may feel a little?uncomfortable?in the?moment, you will undoubtedly feel much better later on.

Sometimes not saying a word is already enough response.

There’s a time in our life that a situation does not really require any noise or response.

Want to know what these situations are?

When you are angry— once we are angry, we often say things that are hurtful and are not even true. This makes a situation even more difficult to deal with. When you are angry, don’t let it get into you, walk away and breathe.

When you might offend someone— if you are in a situation where you want to say something but makes you second guess if you should say something, pick the option to be quiet and let it pass. If you are not sure of what you are going to say, be safe and keep quiet.

When you don’t know the facts— don’t voice out when you only heard one side of the story. Know everything before putting your opinions on the table.

When you are not asked— to be silent is a good thing when people don’t really need your input. Don’t put too much effort in things. Speak when you are asked to.

When you are talking to a closed-minded person— there’s just no use to it. Just keep your thoughts to yourself and understand that these people will only understand according to their level of perspective.

Control your reactions and responses and be the bigger person.

To be silent is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of maturity.

Do you want to add a word or two?....

Often we pay the most attention to those with the loudest voices and the most to say. In doing this, we underestimate the power of the quiet ones.

At any gathering of people, be it a party or a business meeting, there will be those who?talk loudly and demand attention.

These extroverts have lots of great ideas, are socially adept and draw others to them like moths to a flame. At that same party or business meeting, there will often be?a quiet one.

?How many times have you stayed absolutely silent when someone hurt your feelings, when someone crossed the line?

How many times have you ignored a behavior because you didn’t want the discomfort of a disagreement?

How many times have you tried to convince yourself that you weren’t upset and you weren’t angry?

Do you ever feel like you put your?foot in your mouth??

At?some time or another we’ve all?found ourselves in?situations that cause us to say something without meaning to.?Maybe we made a?joke that ruined a special moment or made a careless comment.

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The truth is, there are times when it is better to stay quiet in order to avoid unnecessary?conflict.

There are some?situations when it’s just better to listen than speak. Many times,?staying out of the conversation allows you to better understand those?who are taking part in it.

This is because you can observe their gestures and how they express themselves.?Often, staying quiet is quite beneficial, and?in these seven situations in particular, it’s best to hold your tongue.

People like to?gossip, it’s as simple as that.?It may seem entertaining and fun, but don’t fall into the trap of talking about others.?

The next time someone talks about your friends or someone you know, avoid making any comments.?Just listen and you will learn a lot about not only?the person who is talking, but also who they are talking about.

This person says little but listens a lot. If you watch carefully, you may see that he or she is taking everything in.

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When they finally speak, the rest of the group are often?astonished by the power of their ideas or the insights the quiet one shares.

There is nothing wrong with either of these types of people. We need both the outgoing extroverts and the quieter, more introverted people to make society work.

The problem is, that in our current society,?we pay the most attention to those who make the most noise. And this is a mistake. By doing this, we miss out on the?amazing ideas and insights of the quiet one?in the room.

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Ways quiet people are often misunderstood

It is often assumed that quiet people have little to say, or that they are?socially awkward.

People may assume they don’t have any insights or ideas. Some people may even decide they lack intelligence.

People may also assume that quiet people are weak, submissive and passive. None of these things are true.

In fact,?quiet people are often strong, creative, intuitive and brilliant. We shouldn’t assume that just because they are quiet they will put up with bad behavior either.?

Quiet people watch and listen and when they have all the information they need, they act. So watch out that you don’t upset the quiet one – you could be in for a shock.

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