Do you sometimes lack confidence -learn how to build a long time confidence -LinkedIn motivator

A lack of self-confidence comes in many shapes and forms, and learning how to build confidence is an ongoing project for most of us – we are all works in progress! And we always need to understand how to keep developing. 

Here's some tips that you can use to learn how to build self-confidence.

How to be more confident

• Make lists of your achievements, and things in your life that you are proud of.
• Acknowledge your personal strengths and talents, and remind yourself of them often.
• Set realistic goals for yourself.
• Practice positive self-talk and teaching.
• Make time for your hobbies.
• Try out some new things to find out what you are passionate about.
• Talk to a counsellor or mental health professional to learn self-management strategies that can help build confidence and self-esteem.

What is a confident person?

Not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem.

A confident person:

• does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular
• is willing to take risks
• admits their mistakes and learns from them
• is able to accept a compliment
• is optimistic.

Tips for building self-confidence

There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits.

1. Look at what you’ve already achieved

It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam, attending a meeting, giving a speech or even playing tennis. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you've done and how you managed to do them while you had no confidence at all, a good motivation.

2. Think of things you're good at

Everyone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognizing what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, make them the backbone or foundation of what you’re doing. will help you to build confidence in your own abilities by developing that feeling of doing the things you like.

3. Set some goals

Set some goals and set out the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements, you will keep developing the sensation of personal capabilities by keeping to understand that you’re capable of something. Remember to tick them off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.

4. Talk yourself up

You’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your self-talk and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend or crush and cheer yourself on, keep yourself in a good mood.

5. Get a hobby

Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting, dancing or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly, most likely sports and physics cheer up your mind and new your thinking, give a good rest to the body. 

If you’re not feeling better

Sometimes the quick fixes don’t help in the long term. If you’re feeling bad and things just don’t seem to be improving, it’s worth talking to someone who knows how to help. Professionals such as counsellors and psychologists can help you develop strategies to help you build up your confidence. They may also be able to help you understand any underlying problems that might be causing you to feel bad about yourself.

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If you don't feel ready to speak to a professional, try taking a look at ReachOut Online Community. Talking out your worries with a supportive community of people who have been through similar situations can be a really helpful way to build your self-confidence.

It is not more likely that you need a counsellor, most people lose confidence not to a high degree and creating something that would cheer us up makes us more and more confident. Some things like Sports, try going to Gym, setting up small goals that will increase your achievements and keep going bigger and bigger. Remember Rome wasn’t built in a day.