Do you smile in the mirror first thing?

"The simple habit of smiling at the mirror, makes me drop my emotions at that moment. And acknowledge me, for who I am". Yes sometimes. I smile, I talk to myself, I lip sync to songs in the mirror. I’m not sure what thoughts come to mind but I do this to work on my charisma, confidence and social skills in general. I used to be so self criticizing in my past where I didn’t like to see myself in the mirror but now I do it to help improve myself. I don’t pick at my flaws anymore or magnify what I don’t like, I accept them and try to magnify what I like in the mirror.

It sounds silly but I even sometimes just play out scenarios pretending I’m talking to someone lol and it honestly feels like a confident booster. I’ve always admired and been intrigued by the way confident people carry themselves and how their presence captures my attention and they immediately gain a type of respect so I try to implement that and improve it so I can be this way too.

Often times people don’t realize what you feel about yourself others can feel too so most cases if you feel insecure there’s this type of vibe where you may come off unapproachable, I work to change that because even if I am a average person I want to feel and be amazing too. As if I have something about me great to get to know. I think we are naturally too hard on ourselves and too self-criticizing. So try to smile at yourself in the mirror.

Now, a lot of people might call me a narcissist, an over confident brat who wants to brag about himself. Hold on to your horses. I have learned how to love myself and I have learned it a hard way. I didn't have any confidence to take my pictures and I always found them ugly. I have really observed this around myself too. No one is happy in his/her own skin. People want a longer face, a smaller nose, light coloured eyes, better hair, sharp jawline, fair skin and what not.

When a person finally learns to love himself and his own body, he gets confidence and that confidence is attractive. You have to learn how to carry yourself. Love yourself and don't judge people who do that. This is something you should learn too. If you can appreciate the beauty of someone else, you should learn to appreciate the beauty of your own body too because someone is already doing that. I do admire myself. People say I am self obsessed but to me definition of self obsession is different.

I admire myself when I dress up traditionally. I get a lot of Confidence to carry myself in the best manner I can.Whenever I get to see a mirror, I make sure I smile at myself and call myself beautiful. ( not loudly ?) I love the curve over my face. They help me forget everything. I will get mesmerized on seeing it. I love my dark brown eyes. They speak lot more than I do. I love my silky hair - once my classmate called it spun black silk. I love the way I shrink my face like a puppy - for me it really looks cute.

If you don't find it cute, I don't care. I love the way I write. Most of the time, instead of concentrating on what I am writing I would be concentrating on how am writing. I love my tiny hands. When ever my friend holds hands,mine would be completely hidden into hers. I love my body. Even though it is not perfect It is mine. I love every single aspect of my body, soul and mind. After all, It is me. Love yourself .

Secretly, no way, I openly admire myself. There's a very thin line between confidence and over confidence, and I am confident. And if you are a good human being, you should be aware of that, so am I. If you don't respect yourself, how can someone else do? You need to love yourself,because only then would you do what's best for you and only that will help you achieve success.

Self Realisation is realising who you ‘truly' are. Realising your ‘true self'. Not what people think you are. Not your name, profession, nationality or any of the identity you assume to be true. This is done by diving deep within your own assumed layers of identities through process of self enquiry. This is similar to removing layers of cabbage one by one. You keep on discarding what you are not and in the end when there is no layer left to be removed, you realise the ‘true self'. Cheers!