Do you prefer friends or love or vice versa?

Love is a lot like our life, as sometimes it is a journey of different experiences. It can be difficult to handle , it will get on your nerves , it will test your patience to the limit , it will excite you to no bounds - the surge that you feel in your emotions when you think you've seen that one special person or when you're anticipating even a simple text / hi from them… and the crashing nosedive your emotions go through when you've found that the text was from someone else , that the person you saw was someone else. These are things that have to be seen/experienced to be believed.

Can you tell me if you ever felt goosebumps when you see your friends or their text messages ? Have you really tried as hard to fight for your friendship or protected it from a fallout the way you'd have for your love ? Have you really tried to put yourself on the line for friendship ? Do you dress up for your love the way you would for an outing with friends ? No ? Why ? Because you want to capture and hold your lover's attention onto you. If the answer to any of the above questions is a yes then you're in love and it's not friendship anymore. Welcome to the land of most "friend zoned" people, of one-sided lovers.

There's a clear but invisible line between the two kinds of relationships. And of course , all the action , the tension lies on the border of these two relationships. Today I am out of love. But just because I got hurt doesn't mean that I would say friendships are better to avoid going through the same pain again. To tell you the truth it was the most amazing time in my life. Now when I look back at it , it was a tumultuous year for me as I was figuring out my feelings just like you are right now.

It made me feel strong because I thought no matter what I go through in life I will have at least a companion with me all along whose simple presence would make things at least a little less difficult. And yet it made me weak , thinking that what if she goes away one day ? What do I have left in my life if she's not there anymore ? Had I ever thought of what would my future be like after her or without her ? No. That is the power of love. It is like that one color that fills your life completely and you feel like you will have nothing left in your heart once that color goes out. You feel completely drained.

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The problem is that real friendship is replaced with a caricature. Our expectations mirror those of the friends on a TV show. That life is mostly a life of party with a few mushy-mushy moments. You're not really looking for mutual fulfillment but just want to have fun and make video memories of occasions on a camera that you'll relive someday with your kids. So you can be a party animal and yet feel empty and all alone when you really need someone. Friends are those people who never put you down for what you chose. Friends are not judgmental. They know what you have been through and they still offer you your space and allow you to grow.

But most of all , true friends are forgiving and more acceptable. They are willing to look past a thousand faults in you , and will stick with you for one or two good reasons (so make sure they're pretty strong ones). Now the dangerous border between friendship and love is crossed when one/both friends realize that the other person is ready to go to these lengths for them. People get many friends throughout their different phases of life. Those few are lucky who get to keep that one friend or that same set of friends across all phases of life.

Just try to keep aside the negative feelings like your mood, need or ego (most important), your obstinacy, your insecurities, your anger and you will be absolutely fine. Now tell me , with such different experiences, such varied tastes, can you truly compare between friendship and love ? Are you ready to give up one relationship for the other ? I guess many of you know why have used “beautifully” in my previous sentence.

If my life is blessed with her love and she being my life partner than there’s no need of choosing her as she is already and forever with me. And friends, they too are with me and will be there at every step further and forever, I know. So, doesn’t matter whom I choose, my life and I were blessed and will remain blessed with my Love and my Friends. Why I chose to love my friends?! Because even my Love will be my friend know. Loving friends means loving the friends and my soulmate too.

By the way, is it ‘Love’ or Friend. If by ‘Love’ you mean the strong feeling of affection, then I would choose my friends. Why?! Because when I am with my friends, they are enough to prove me what love is. They are the one who can make me feel the importance of love. they make me feel the feeling of ‘being loved’.

Still, If you want me to answer your question, I mean in a condition where I have to choose anyone in real life, I would choose none of them. Rather than choosing one of them and regretting the whole life, I would quit both the relationships of friendship and love and move forward in order to live life for myself and finding reasons for smiling. Hope, this never happens. I am happy that I haven’t found my girl yet, so I only have to tolerate my idiot friends..! Cheers!