Do you know what your life's purpose is? Join me as I reflect on my journey and find out how you can discover your purpose too.

Four years ago, following my divorce, I started to ask myself what I really wanted from my life, what was it going to be about, why was I really here, what was my purpose and how can I start living a fulfilling life, on my own terms.

Spending the time to reflect on your purpose can feel heavy - it’s a heavy word - PURPOSE. It quite literally means: the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.?

When you stop to think about why you were created, why you exist and what your purpose on this earth is - it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Trust me, I have been there! In fact, I spent my first 39 years on this planet not knowing the answer and moving through life, doing all the things one does, school, jobs, more school, a career, getting married, buying a house - all of it!?

Then all within a span of a year I was without a job, sold my house and got divorced - I felt like I was back to ground zero, starting from scratch, rewriting my story. I spent a lot of time reflecting during this period and instead of choosing to focus on my pain I chose to focus on my purpose.?

It got me thinking about what my life was going to be about going forward. Who did I want to be, what did I want to do, who did I want to work with and serve, what legacy would I leave behind and ultimately, why was I here?

I realized that everything in my life at that point, while I chose it all, I chose it for the wrong reasons. I chose it to appease others, to do what I thought one was supposed to do at certain stages in life, to feed my own ego, to feel like I belonged and ultimately to live the life I thought I was supposed to live and not the one I really wanted to live. There was a lot of should, I should do this, I should do that etc. But there wasn’t a lot of asking myself what I really wanted.

Then I got introduced to my mindset coach and she started by asking our group, what do you really want? It was a really hard question for me to answer, but being the dutiful student that I am, I gave the answer I was supposed to give and in retrospect, I failed the assignment. But I carried on with that answer as it was the answer that sounded right when I shared it, it felt like others would get it and it felt like it made sense given what I have done and achieved at this point in my life. It was the answer you give when you want to get an A on an assignment and make the teacher happy. But in this instance, there was no teacher to appease – the question was “what do YOU really want?” and the answer could only come from me, by me and for me and I would only get an “A” when I was being true to myself.

The truth is I knew this deep down because when I would say what I really wanted it didn’t feel authentic and because of that I floundered… for a while. Trying to get behind a purpose that didn’t resonate with me deep in my soul, that didn’t get me excited, that didn’t feel authentic and that didn’t feel true for me. I got by for a while with this answer until it became increasingly difficult to feel fulfilled or achieve success, building a life and filling my days with activities that didn’t feel like “me.” I was constantly procrastinating, resisting, delaying and straight up playing small. It then went from difficult to unbearable, and I am going to be vulnerable and share that it got to the point where it became hard to get out of bed most mornings. When I did, I was distracted, filling my days with meetings and activities that would seemingly move me forward and would outwardly look like I was doing the right things. Heck, I even justified and rationalized that they were the right things, but because I was not being true to myself it was really all an illusion of what living a fulfilling life of purpose should look like. There comes that should again…. Time to start the assignment over!

After almost two years in this group coaching program, of daily rewiring and reprogramming some seriously engrained conditioning of living a life of should and living a life that I thought I was supposed to live, I finally was ready to answer the question and truly answer the question.

To answer it from a place of truth, love and acceptance for what I desire, how I truly want to live my life and how I want to serve.

And while I know this answer will change as I continue to grow, evolve, level up and step into this truth, it is what is flowing through me right now and I have felt compelled to share it here.

I am sharing because I know how much I struggled with getting to this point, I share because I know how amazing it would have been to have someone be so open and vulnerable to share their OWN struggles discovering their purpose in hopes that I might not have felt so lost along the way in discovering mine. I share because it would be nice to hear that it’s okay to NOT know what you want, it’s okay if for 39 years you followed a path that you thought was the right one and then to wake up and realize you want to start writing a new story for yourself. I share because answering such an important question is hard and that’s okay, but not asking and not being true to yourself about the answer is even harder.

I am also sharing for anyone who does know what they really want but are scared that it won’t make sense to those around them so they keep it in or worse, they decide not to pursue a life that would allow them to fulfill their desires. The reality is the fact that it makes sense to you, is all that really matters.

I want you to know that your desires, however crazy they may be, are real, they are calling you to fulfill them and they are definitely possible for you to achieve. This is your permission to declare them!

My own journey of self-discovery on this path led me to pursue a life coaching certification mainly because I realized how important it is to have someone to help you along the way, someone who is equipped to do so but more importantly is motivated and called to do so. Figuring out what I want and starting to live my life in a way that is oriented to the fulfillment of my desires has been the greatest gift I have ever received and being able to help others do the same is something that resonates deep in my soul. Being on this journey of self-discovery, working with a coach and ultimately becoming a coach has allowed me to step into my purpose and I am called to help others to discover their purpose too.

In order to start that process, I had to ask myself, what do I really want, what motivates me, how can I best serve others and why am I here??

I started to piece my story together, making peace with the parts of my past that I was ready to let go of, focusing on the elements I loved about my life, being honest with myself about what I was really passionate about, recognizing my gifts and natural abilities and dreaming of all the unfulfilled hopes and desires I still had. When those pieces started to come together, it was one of the most beautiful pictures that I have ever seen. A picture of a life I was creating for myself, from a place of truth, hope, desire and abundance.?

While I still hadn’t fully discovered my personal purpose, I was certainly starting to feel energized, excited and clear about my new path forward. The picture I created gave me the clarity to navigate decisions in my life - essentially if it wasn’t going to move me closer to that picture, I would filter it out. There was no confusion - it was simple yet expansive. Knowing what I was working towards, who I would serve all while building a life that I could enjoy allowed me to begin to understand why I was here and what my life would be about.

Ultimately, the last few years of my life have been spent on an inward journey of discovery - to know why I am here, to know my purpose. I believe this is a lifelong journey, one that never ends with each phase and stage of life bringing us closer and closer to that purpose.?

?As of today, I am called to help the underrepresented to be represented. I do this by helping corporate professionals and aspiring entrepreneurs to launch, grow and scale their purpose-driven businesses. I lead by example and this is how I show up:

• I take up space, speak my truth and give permission to all of those who have felt marginalized, minimized, silenced, overlooked and underestimated to do the same.
• I use my voice on my podcast and on stage to inspire others by sharing and amplifying the stories of underrepresented founders who are paving a new way forward in their industries.
• I help founders gain access to the financial resources and support they need to launch, scale and grow their businesses.
• I provide coaching services to help my clients remember and know that they are worthy and deserving of success, to encourage them to dream big, to pursue those dreams boldly and to know there are no limitations to what they can achieve.
• I am creating a community that is about belonging and inclusion for those who feel they don’t belong where they are right now. This community is supportive, we celebrate each other’s successes and elevate the entire collective.
• I am the example that it is possible to break generational cycles, to challenge the status quo and pave a better way forward for future generations of diverse founders.
• Ultimately, I exist to support the dreams of aspiring entrepreneurs by giving them the resources, strategies and advice they need to turn those dreams into reality.?

I know this is my purpose as everything I have gone through and experienced has prepared me for this moment. I know this is needed right now as this is exactly the type of support and community I longed for throughout my own career and entrepreneurial journey. I know that the fact that I desire it means others do too and creating it would be the ultimate way for me to show up and serve in my highest capacity.

I am deeply passionate about this mission as my own soul was searching for this and is now calling me to build it for others.

I am so deeply grateful for all of you that are on this journey with me. For those of you who have read all the way to the end - this is for you, this is for me, this is for all of us. I believe that together we can elevate, together we can create and together we can innovate our way to a future that is designed for us by us. Our time is now, our moment is now, the future we want is ours to build and we will do it together – who’s with me?

If you're in, I invite you to download a workbook that I created to help you start connecting and discovering your own purpose - it is called the Find Your Flow Workbook. This workbook follows the same same process I ultimately used to discover my own purpose and craft my “Purpose Statement”.?

Discovering your purpose and living in alignment with that purpose is one the most fulfilling and empowering things you can do for yourself and I created this workbook to help you along your journey so it doesn’t have to take years of your life to finally start living with purpose and on purpose, I want it for you now!?

I truly believe that when we collectively live with intention and purpose it elevates us all.?

So, I encourage you to download the Workbook and I would love to know what YOUR purpose statement is? Feel free to drop it in the comments or in a DM to me, I can’t wait to hear it!