Do You Know What Triggers You?
One of our leadership workshops focuses on leadership derailers. We assess the likelihood of a leader’s possibility for derailment by starting in an unlikely place. The revelations are powerful.?
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” - Aristotle (ancient Greek philosopher)
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Leaders are susceptible to a higher likelihood of derailment if they don’t know what triggers them. Surprisingly, triggers are easily identified.
Clarify Your Thinking
Our leadership workshop re: derailers starts with a slightly counterintuitive opening question:?
What is the predominant value espoused in the home in which you grew up??
We receive all sorts of answers:
Most participants think this exercise is a standard icebreaker. While it is an ice-breaker, it serves another important purpose discussed below.?
We’ve found that most leaders aren’t fully aware of what triggers them emotionally. This lack of awareness ensnares leaders, creating a higher likelihood of derailment:?
Old Thinking: They always do _____. They never do _____. I can’t rely on _____. Why don’t they ______.?
New Thinking: I seem to fall for the same issues all the time. I wonder why that is. Is there a pattern to my reactions? What are my triggers? How can I break this cycle on these issues?
Thoughts Lead to Actions
Later in the workshop, we ask leaders to make a list of their triggers. This generates responses like:
Interestingly, the trigger each person offers is the opposite of the value they shared at the beginning of the workshop.?
Typically, the leaders are shocked at the direct correlation. The revelation each has unlocks a deeper understanding of their triggers.
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What you value sets your expectations. If you value respect, you assume everyone else values respect. News flash… they don’t, and when they act in a manner that does not meet your expectation, it triggers you. It can trigger you again and again causing you to react… again and again.?
To break the reactive cycle, you must know what your triggers are. Take these steps to better understand/discover what your triggers are:?
Step 1: Write your values as a leader.?
Step 2: Identify the expectations you have of others related to these values.
Step 3: Make a list of three times you’ve been triggered in the recent past.
Knowing your triggers is a key step in creating awareness of how you tick as a leader. If you know what triggers you then you can see it coming a mile away. It gives you precious time to breathe and respond, versus feeling hijacked by emotion and merely reacting… perhaps in a manner that is not effective.?
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Watch this week’s video for a more detailed way of understanding your triggers so you can keep your leadership train on track.
What's Your Opinion?
What is a trigger of yours? Let me know: [email protected]
If you are going to be a leader, you might as well be a good one. Don’t let doubt count you out. Have a confident week!
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