Do you know how to be a partner, Friend?

One of the main things I teach my clients is how to become a partner.

The ability to partner is a skill that serves us in every area of life and the only road to a healthy, sustainable relationship.?

And while going solo has its benefits and some have managed to get relatively far alone... In life, we always go further together.?

You may already be aware that singlehood is an opportunity, not an affliction. Also, having a tumultuous relationship history is not a destiny or a mark on your character.

Being single is simply a sign that you haven't successfully partnered… yet.

I know, I know. You’ve had relationships and they’ve been narcissists, abusers, non-committal, or just problematic for a myriad of reasons.?

Or, maybe you experienced great love but circumstances beyond your control intervened.

So, while you’re not responsible for whatever traumas made your past romantic partners become unsuitable, your past is a clear indication that partnership has not been your bag.

Fret not. It wasn't mine for a long time either. It wasn't until I did five really important things that I was even able to be truly committed. And even now the old demons occasionally try to resurface and sabotage my growth.

Just like with any transformation you want to cause in your life, growing into a new self is the shedding of an old self.

If you want a better job, you have to level up your skills.

If you want a happy family life, you have to face your shadows, forgive, and heal.

If you want fitness and physical fabulousness, you have to develop habits that support your mind and body to make a change.

If you want to go from single to in-a-relationship, you have to become a partner.

So here are 5 steps to take the journey from lone wolf to your ideal person's love muffin.

1. Self Acceptance - Become your own love muffin. Release the perfectionism and the wickedly judgmental self-talk. Fill yourself up with unconditionality.
2. Clarity - Get clear about your vision of love. It's not your checklist. What do you actually want to experience in your ideal intimate relationship? Nothing more, nothing less.
3. Discipline - Ask your future self what habits you would have to commit to in order to become the you that is happily in your ideal relationship.
4. Vulnerability -Let people in. Ask for help. Communicate clearly. Stop making assumptions and relationship decisions by yourself. Say what's true for you and leave room for what may be true for someone else. Collab with everybody you know. Even if it's simply asking for and accepting feedback.
5. Loving Spirit - Let the unconditionality you are cultivating for yourself begin to overflow onto others. Your self-absorption era has to culminate to allow your partnership era to commence. Use conversation to understand what it means to share life.

Feel like you've done all of these things and it's not working?

Feel like it's too much work and you've lost hope?

Feel like deep down you'd just rather be single?

Then DON'T use this link to apply for a call.

I only want to talk to women who understand that the love life they desire is their birthright and that asking for guidance is imperative.

If that's you, let's get on a call.

Love you so much!

Coach Candice ??

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Hey there, Love! I’m Candice. I created The Salón a love coaching boutique for women and The G.L.O.A.T? (Greatest Love of All Time) Curriculum. I’m also host of the “Loving Relationships for Women of Color” podcast and newsletter.?

Have you accomplished just about everything but a healthy, joyous love relationship??Are you lost in social media's negative echo chamber about Love??Are you tired of having to choose the bear??

Come to candiceharperlovecoach.com. I got you, Sis.?

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