Do You Keep Attracting Fake Relationships? Fake Friends, Fake Romance—Here’s Why They Abandon, Betray, or Don’t Commit to You &How to Break This Cycle

Have you ever found yourself in a string of fake friendships or romantic connections that feel real at first, but ultimately leave you feeling betrayed, abandoned, or unfulfilled? It’s like the same story, different faces—friends who don’t show up when you need them or partners who just won’t commit. You give your time, your energy, your heart, only to find out you’re not getting the same in return.

So why does this keep happening?

As women, it’s easy to get stuck in cycles where we attract relationships that reflect how we feel about ourselves deep down. If you’re operating from a place of low self-worth, even without realizing it, you may end up in situations that mirror that feeling. Whether it’s friendships that lack depth or romantic partners who won’t invest in you, it all boils down to one core truth:

We attract the energy we put out into the world.

The Wounded Feminine Energy Behind Fake Connections

If you find yourself in relationships that constantly feel fake or shallow, it’s worth asking yourself if there’s a part of you that’s afraid to show up fully. When we’re operating from wounded feminine energy—where feelings of unworthiness, fear of rejection, or fear of abandonment rule—it’s no wonder we attract relationships that reflect that.

Think about it. Have you ever caught yourself bending over backward for others, hoping they’ll stick around? Or dimming your own light so you don’t come across as “too much”? Maybe you’ve settled for a romantic connection where the other person keeps you at arm’s length, always on the edge of true commitment. These situations stem from deeper wounds that we often don’t even know are there.

Why You Keep Attracting These Fake Relationships

The truth is, fake relationships show up when there’s a disconnect between the way we present ourselves to the world and how we truly feel on the inside. When we haven’t healed our self-worth, we may unconsciously accept less than we deserve.

And if you don’t fully trust or respect yourself, how can you expect others to? Genuine and lasting committed relationships are founded on mutual trust and respect. But you can’t give or pour trust and respect into a relationship if you don’t have those things for yourself first. You can’t give what you don’t have. If there’s any part of you that questions your value or doubts your worth, it’s time to heal that.

Breaking the Cycle: Cultivating Self-Worth to Attract Real Love and Friendship

The key to breaking this cycle of fake relationships is learning to truly love and respect yourself. When you cultivate healthy self-worth, you start to attract people who see your value and show up for you in ways that are genuine, lasting, and deeply fulfilling. This doesn’t mean becoming “perfect” or “flawless”—it means healing the wounded parts of yourself so you can show up as your full, authentic self.

In my ebook, “Awaken the High-Value Queen Within: Heal Your Self-Worth, Embody Authentic Femininity, and Manifest Your True King,” I dive into this journey of self-healing. I share how to break free from these unhealthy patterns, heal your self-worth, and step into your power as a high-value woman. Once you do this inner work, everything changes—how you show up, the people you attract, and the love and respect you receive from others.

Why Healing Your Self-Worth Is the Key

You can only have a healthy level of self-respect and self-trust when you’ve cultivated it within yourself first. The way to do this is by healing your self-worth. When you know your worth, you’re no longer willing to entertain fake friends or romantic partners who don’t respect or value you. Instead, you raise your standards—not out of pride, but out of love for yourself. You stop settling for less than what you deserve because you know your value.

This journey starts with you. It’s not about fixing other people or waiting for them to change—it’s about healing your inner world so your outer world reflects that love and worthiness back to you.

How to Start Attracting Real, Committed Relationships

1. Heal Your Wounds

First, it’s important to become aware of where your insecurities or limiting beliefs are rooted. Often, they stem from past experiences of rejection, betrayal, or abandonment that we haven’t fully processed. Acknowledge these wounds, and give yourself the space to heal them.

2. Build a Relationship with Yourself

Learn to treat yourself with the love, respect, and kindness you deserve. Cultivate a sense of self-trust. This can be as simple as showing up for yourself every day, honoring your needs, and not abandoning yourself to please others.

3. Raise Your Standards

Once you know your worth, don’t be afraid to set boundaries and raise your standards. Real friends and romantic partners will respect and honor these boundaries. They’ll be attracted to the confidence you exude when you truly know your value.

4. Attract High-Value Connections

When you show up as your authentic, high-value self, you naturally start to attract people who are on the same wavelength. The more you embody self-worth, the more you’ll notice your relationships transforming into ones that are genuine, committed, and fulfilling.

You Deserve Real Love and Real Friendships

If you’re ready to stop repeating the same painful cycles and start attracting relationships that honor and uplift you, now is the time to do the work. In my coaching programs, I guide women through the process of healing their self-worth, embodying authentic femininity, and manifesting the love and life they truly deserve.

I invite you to explore my book, “Awaken the High-Value Queen Within: Heal Your Self-Worth, Embody Authentic Femininity, and Manifest Your True King,” and my coaching programs at https://wynneljoycoling.com. If you’re tired of fake relationships and ready for something real, this is your time.