Do you have a symbolic Grace and Frankie

Just a bit of background if you don't know the series Grace and Frankie

''For as long as they can recall, Grace and Frankie have been rivals. Their one-upmanship comes crashing to a halt, however, when they learn that their husbands have fallen in love with each other and want to get married. As everything around the ladies is coming apart, the only thing they can really rely on is each other. This Netflix original re-teams Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin ("9 to 5") as Grace and Frankie, respectively, bringing their chemistry to the small screen.

When we younger we have loads of friends...my one friend Annetia and I always laugh when I said I don't want more friends I have "'hompe" and hompe friends. Getting more mature and more wise and must admit seeing more of life...one thing is very prominent to me...who you walking your mile with the older you get...will most probably define what kind of life you would have...getting older - the quality of your relationships.

In lockdown many people realized how small there circles really are...or how little people care. Some people learned that without money, benefits...trimmings you don't have loads of friends left. Others learned if you have an injury, losing your job, moving to a new Country, losing your life Partner...your inner circle is very small...

If you have a public life you have loads of friends and connections on social media however how many of them is truly a best friend.

they say “Show me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are”

My best best friends (including my two sisters) I have from school. They still part of my Journey. They may wear different hats...they may not all be female friends...they are my tribe...they don't need explanations, makeup, trimmings...they love me just the way I am...

Let's look what is the real definition of friendship

A True Friend Has your Back

Someone who is a true friend stands up for you. When others try to hurt you emotionally or physically, they do everything they can to make sure you stay safe. They don't care who is trying to harm you; they will defend you anytime, anywhere. If they can help you, they'll do it without reservation or reward. A true friend is not one who repeatedly is telling you negative things other people say about you. First, they make it clear by their words and by their actions where they stand when it comes to you. Secondly, they don't just merely standby silently when others are tearing you down no matter what consequences they may face socially. A true friend is a friend when is convenient and when it is not. They standby you consistently both when you are present and when you are not

They're Authentic and Honest with You

True friends aren't phony with you. They show you who they really are. They're honest with you when it matters most. They never try to deceive you to make themselves seem stronger, more successful, or better than they really are. A true friend goes beyond the surface, any true friendship requires some level of vulnerability. When a friend opens up to you and shares their struggles and disappointments, it is a testament to the trust and value they place in you. Having a friend that shows you that they trust you with their authentic self is a good indicator that you can do the same with them.

A true friend is not only honest about themselves, but they are also honest about you. They are able to have difficult conversations in telling you things that sometimes you may not be eager to hear. The key is that they do it in love and with grace. They don't tear you down but rather a true friend will hold you to a standard they know your character is worthy of.

They Accept You for You

A real friend accepts you as you are. They can encourage you to become a better version of you, but they also help you see the beauty of who you are right now. They don't get sidetracked by what others may say or think of you. Instead, they celebrate the you they've come to know. Although a true friend may encourage you to make good decisions, they trust your judgment and respect your own personal judgments. They don't become passive aggressive when they give advice you don't accept, instead, they respect boundaries and value your feelings and thoughts. They don't push you to become who they want you to be, instead, they celebrate what makes you uniquely you. They accept your personal growth and evolutions along the way because the reasons they value goes far beneath your personal style, interests, profession, marital/relationship status, etc.

They Want What's Best for You

A false friend might push you to change for them. They might give you the feedback you want rather than the words that will actually help you. A true friend acknowledges your feelings but at the same time points you towards a happier, healthier life. A true friend is not complacent in your personal growth, they don't passively sit by and watch you make choices that are not good for you. They want to see the happiest and healthiest version of you. The encouragement to make the choice that will get you to want in life. They learn the art of being your biggest cheerleader while holding you accountable to your goals as well.

They Don't Abandon You

Fairweather friends are with you when you're happy and successful. Then, when things go wrong for you, they move on to the next happy, successful person. A real friend, on the other hand, stays with you through traumas, disappointments, mental health crises, and physical illnesses. They don't abandon you just because it's easier or more comfortable to avoid you. Because a true friend truly cares about you, they actually want to be there for you during your difficult times. They care more about what you are going through more than they care about how fun you are. A friend isn't around simply for the things you have in your life, they are around for you! So when your life gets more challenging and you find yourself feeling pretty down or overwhelmed you won't have to go through these challenges alone with a true friend in your corner.

Finding Your Own Definition of a True Friend

Everyone has their own ideal friend. In addition to the qualities shared by all true friends, you may want a friend who shares your interests or goals. Or, you might want to spend time with people who are different from you in ways that challenge you to grow as a person. If your current friends let you down, redefining true friendship can open the door to a rich, rewarding relationship.

Much like our personal styles, we all may have different needs and desires when coming to friendship. You may also come to recognize that some differences are able to support you in some areas of life while you may have another friend that you rely on for support in another area of your life. Expanding the friendships that make up your support system can help ensure that your needs are adequately being met. No friend is perfect, and no friend will be able to be everything to you. Even true friends will sometimes disappoint us. What matters most is how they respond to your feelings and the patterns they establish. Have the disappointments you are experiencing in your friendship become habits? A true friend cares about you and is able to have concern and respect for your thoughts and emotions even when they may not agree. If the disappointment you are experiencing in a friendship has become consistent, it may be time to redefine your definition of a true friend. By By: Joanna Smykowski betterhelp

With all this in mind...let's look into the mirror and see if we are a best, great, only, a special friend. Are you being a friend a friend can count on...

Never forget also...how can we be lovers if we can't be friends...

Not to late to work on one or two of your best relationships. They worth the investment, most probably the best insurance policy you can have.

Make new friends they worth silver, keep your old friends they worth gold.

so what is the rules for friendship

Here is six rules for great friendship from Psychology Today

1. Support, trust, and honesty are givens.

Everyone needs a support network — and friendships are the bedrock of our social support systems. When you consider yourself the friend of another, you’re implicitly offering to be a part of her support network. If you’re a no-show too often when you’re needed, your value in the network declines at a rate in direct proportion to how great her need might be. If you fail to show up for her, you shouldn’t be surprised if she fails to show up for you. Friendships are built on mutuality and reciprocity — be there for her, so that she will be there for you.

If you don’t trust her, she’s not your friend. If she cannot trust you, you’re not her friend. If you share untruths or spread lies, you’re not her friend. It’s just that simple. Without trust, there is no authenticity to the friendship. If you can’t be straight with her or feel the need to hide your actions or tell untruths, the relationship is being built on shifting sand and won’t be able to withstand any real challenges

2. Listen to your friends.

Too often, we only “half hear” what others are telling us — our own lives are so complicated that we have difficulty making space for caring about another’s experiences some days. However, friendships require attention and tending — if we don’t truly know what a friend needs, and if we don’t clearly state what we’re feeling or needing ourselves, friendships just won’t survive.

3. Ditch the judgment.

Good friends are able to acknowledge that everyone is human, and that true friends don’t judge each other’s choices. If you can’t handle friends who make decisions or choose lives that differ from what you feel is “best,” then you need to exit the relationship. Friends don’t have to necessarily “like” or “approve” of their friends’ choices, but good friends will accept their friends’ choices no matter what. And if you can’t handle the path your friend is traveling, it’s better to let the relationship go than to stand on the sidelines heckling your friend or shaming her for her decisions.

Another important and related request is that you assume the best and give your friend the benefit of the doubt. If you’re quick to assume the worst and ready to lay down blame, you’re not going to be the kind of friend that anyone wants for the long haul. We have to prove ourselves often enough on the job and in other situations; don’t make friendship a proving ground, as well.

4. Don’t talk behind a friend’s back.

There’s no rule that says you have to love what your friend is wearing, who your friend is dating, how your friend is raising her kids, or any other choices your friend is making. However, there is an unspoken rule that you don’t bash your friend’s choices to others behind her back. Gossip is a dangerous tool that women use to cement their own standing in a social setting. Gossip began as a tool that was used to protect people from making mistakes that others had made before them Gossip was borne out of the desire to protect others, not harm the subject of the gossip. Unfortunately, gossip today is designed to damage the reputation of another, which is a 180-degree turnaround from its original purpose.

When it comes right down to it, there is no more valuable social capital than friendships. These are the relationships that can stand the test of time and distance and roll with the punches when things get a little dicey. Good friends, though, will give you the space you need when you need it, and love you just as much when you’re down as when you’re up, and when you’re broke as well as loaded.

Even in the best friendships, life can get in the way of frequent connections, but good friends can pick up a conversation months or even years later and feel as close as ever. It’s not the frequency of connecting that proves the strength of a relationship, it’s the depth of the connection and the mutual affinity and respect that are the hallmarks of its merit.

5. Respect your friends — and their boundaries.

Respect your friends’ boundaries as well as their stories. Some friends may have a difficult time letting people get close to them for fear of being hurt. Don’t crowd your friends — give them the space they need to feel comfortable, and let the relationship deepen over time. The beautiful thing about strong friendships is that they provide the freedom to communicate openly and honestly. However, being too quick to jump in and say exactly what you think — without taking time to reflect on whether or not you’re about to show judgment or efforts at controlling a friend’s responses — can do long-term damage to the relationship. While honestly is essential, tact and diplomacy are also important elements of upfront conversations

6. Forgive where you can — and seek forgiveness when you screw up.

When you expect more from others than you expect from yourself, your relationships are not going to be nearly as enduring as you might hope. No one promises to bring perfection to a relationship, so being willing to accept and forgive the shortcomings of others makes it much more likely that you’ll build the kind of friendships that will last. It’s also important that we are able to acknowledge when we make mistakes, as well. If you’re able to admit when you’ve failed to hold up your end of the relationship, it’s a lot more likely that a friend will be able to forgive and move forward. By Suzanne Degges-White, PhD, LCPC, LPC, LMHC, NCC, is professor and chair of the Counseling and Higher Education department at Northern Illinois University. She is a licensed counselor whose focus includes working with individuals and families facing transitions. Her academic research explores development over the lifespan with a strong focus on women’s relationships and women’s developmental transitions.

Nobody like to get get old alone, being on your own. Not having someone to help you, support you, care for you...the same as health...you can't start living healthy, flexible, movable when you old...it is a life long process.

and for those friends who needs proof

Speaking to my Psychologist friends - they say that friendship is of high importance

Friends lower stress.

When women feel close to someone, levels of progesterone, a hormone that helps reduce stress and anxiety, go up, a study from the University of Michigan found. "The surge was also linked to a willingness to risk one’s life for the other person, so we believe it may have played a role in establishing social bonds over the course of evolution," says Stephanie Brown, Ph.D., associate professor of psychiatry and psychology at Stony Brook University’s Renaissance School of Medicine and lead author of the study. Plus, when stress levels go down, so does your risk for health conditions like heart disease, obesity, and depression.

Friends keep you razor-sharp.

Researchers from Northwestern University studied people over age 80 who had the memory function of middle-aged adults and found that these "super agers" had more positive social relationships. "There is a body of prior research that suggests social integration, engagement with family, and emotional support from a social network are positively associated with cognitive function in older adults," says Amanda Cook Maher, Ph.D., clinical neuropsychology postdoctoral fellow at Northwestern University and lead author of the study. "Our findings add to this prior work by suggesting that perceived high-quality social relationships may be an important factor in above-average cognitive performance."

Friends can help you live longer.

When researchers asked more than 90,000 women between 50 and 79 how much social support they had, those who said they had more support were more likely to still be living in a follow-up years later. "The difference was slight, but the data is pretty reliable because it was out of such a large group, so it's less likely to be a coincidence," says Nancy Freeborne, Dr.PH., adjunct professor of health administration and policy at George Mason University and lead author of the study. Other studies have shown that women with breast cancer who have strong social and emotional networks have better odds of survival.

Friends can boost your career.

Women who frequently check in with two or three women in their friendship circle or have female-dominated inner circles are more likely to land higher-ranking leadership positions, according to a study by the University of Notre Dame and Northwestern University. "There continues to be bias in the workplace that makes it difficult for women to have equity in pay and promotion opportunities," says Jenna Glover, Ph.D., licensed psychologist at Children’s Hospital Colorado. "Having strong friendships can help provide networking and mentoring opportunities for career development and advancement."

On top of that, Glover notes that women who have careers are often asked to juggle more demands outside of work than their male counterparts — such as child-rearing responsibilities — and having friends who can help validate these extra demands and support all aspects of your life can be invaluable.

Friends can motivate you to be healthier.

If you’re looking to start a new workout routine or a healthier diet, take a look at your social circle. You may have more success if your friends employ the healthy habits you’re hoping to adopt. "When we have close friends who exercise, save money, or volunteer, we are more likely to also engage in those same behaviors," says Glover. "Conversely, when we have friends who smoke, spend impulsively, or have chaotic relationship patterns, we are more likely to mimic those same behaviors in our own life."

Friends teach you about yourself.

Now might be a good time to think about friendships that are especially meaningful to you. "My research shows that as we’re talking about and thinking about our friends, we’re also reflecting who we are and who we want to be," says McCabe. "People strive to present themselves as positive and competent people and I’ve found that as people talk about their friends, they are often talking about their current self or the self they’d like to become."

Along those same lines, if you realize that a particular relationship doesn’t reflect your values, it’s okay to say goodbye. "We are often afraid to let go of friendships — maybe for the nostalgia of the past, the thought that they may be useful in the future, or how it looks to others when we have fewer friends," says McCabe, "but I find there are times when it is not just okay but helpful for our success and self-identity to let a friendship fade away or break away."

Friends just help you feel better.

"A lack of friendships and social support increases the risk of developing an anxiety or depressive disorder," says Glover, "and one of the key treatment components for depression is helping individuals expand their social network and increase the amount of time they are spending with friends." In fact, good friendships predict health and happiness as we age better than do our relationships with relatives, two studies from Michigan State University show. It may be because we get to weed out  friends over time, whereas family — including the difficult members — is forever. By KAITLYN PIRIE Sr. EditorKaitlyn started her career as a reporter in the research department at Real Simple and went on to become a health editor at Family Circle before joining the Hearst team.

A few great movies to remind you about great friendships

The First Wives Club, 9 to 5, Mamma Mia! The Movie, Now and Then, Romy and Michele's High School Reunion, Beaches, Clueless, Bridesmaids, , Sex and the City, Steel Magnolias and Set It Off

We also need a few friendship songs

Friendship Song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVDiQcJwoIQ

Best friends songs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3jE7Wcag1E

Stand by me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_F6IU2_tff0

I turn to you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4q05resEvc

You my best friend - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCCtPr-0rbM