Do you have a restless r/ship with yourself

I do. Until a few minutes ago at least. I did.

I am nothing if not inundated with self-care resources. I use them - but only because I have them. That attitude is wanting at best.

I have been going through a coaching course with Positive Intelligence that has taught me many things, among them, the importance of being present and seeing projects to their ultimate conclusion. The personality that hinders us from being successful in this, is termed ‘the restless’.

Today we were learning about how restlessness affects relationships. This bit did not resonate with me. I work hard towards building relationships. However, as I was doing one of the prescribed exercises, it dawned on me that I do not do enough to build up the relationship with myself.

How I figured this was, as I was in my quiet mind state, I noticed myself thinking about a solution to one of my person’s issues, and I almost got out of the exercise in a rush to call them and solve it for them.

Luckily for me, I have built up the muscle to hold myself down in the present moment, enough to evaluate the thoughts at hand. I took a millisecond to ponder upon my reaction, and intended decision. This was when it hit me.

‘I do not value myself enough to consider that ‘me-time’ in that exercise, is time that’s beneficial to building my relationship with myself.’

The sheer effort and ability it takes for me to sit still, allow myself to be with myself for 5 minutes, to scan my body and senses, observe my thoughts, enjoy being in my body, be curious about the ongoings of & in me is really not that much, yet I still never take the time.

Restlessness leads me to want to be anywhere but with myself. It’s the curse of the hyper-achiever...But I digress.

Without the need to psycho-analyze the reason why, it felt good enough to? bring into my awareness this very important piece of information.

Value myself enough to place importance on building a relationship with myself, and all aspects of my essence - if only for 5 min.

Put myself first. For once, not try to escape. Just be present.

Additionally, as if I had opened the proverbial can of worms, my mind proceeded to give me more ideas and opportunities for how to be with myself, and build up this vital relationship. For starters ‘TAKE BREAKFAST for christsake!!’

I put off breakfast, a lot. If you asked the former me, they know its benefits, but serving the world always takes precedence.

My point is, self awareness is vital in helping us fill our cups and keep them full enough to pour into others. No two people are alike, hence the need to take time to self-study, enough to know what the relationship with yourself needs and deserves.

The fact that by the end of my exercise I was feeling more grounded, loving and vibrant is evidence enough that if you who is reading this will give it a try, you shall set yourself up for limitless success in all that you do.

Now go ye forth & fill that cup of self- love. Build & maintain that r/ship.

Thank you for reading.? ????

@Miriam-Rose is a mindset coach, a writer & speaker.