Do You Deserve to Be Trusted?
Trust is the foundation of every relationship. Understanding how to build trust and when to see that someone else should not be trusted is critical. In this article, my very good friend?Frank Sonnenberg ?shares?15 Ways You Determine If Someone Should Be Trusted.
Some things occur naturally, like the sunrise, seasons, and the changing of the tides. Many folks put?trust?in the same category, thinking it’s simply a natural outgrowth of relationships. Nothing could be further from the truth. What’s more, if you believe that trust is inevitable, you’re far less likely to make the effort required to earn it. Do you deserve to be trusted?
Even though most people acknowledge the importance of trust, there’s no easy way to gauge its progress. In fact, you’re probably unaware that you constantly evaluate people’s trustworthiness, but you actually do. Think of it as a mental scorecard. You give folks a nod of approval every time they prove worthy of your trust. And you become wary of them every time they disappoint you.
You’ve never given something so much thought, without really thinking.
When someone displays?ethical behavior?on a?consistent?basis, you’re able to predict?future?conduct with some degree of?confidence. BUT, if inappropriate behavior is displayed at any time during the process, it’ll cast a shadow on the relationship. And you may even question whether you should trust that person.
Trust takes a long time to develop, but it can be lost in the blink of an eye.
15 Ways You Determine If Someone Should Be Trusted
Think about why you trust some people and not others. What is it about their behavior that makes you trust them?
Do these thoughts cross your mind:
“I can always count on him. He’d never let me down.”
“She’s the same person in public as she is in private.”
“His promise is as good as a contract.”
“She’s always willing to help others and rarely asks for anything in return.”
“He tells me the truth — even when it hurts.”
“She’d never say anything behind my back that she wouldn’t say directly to me.”
“He treats everyone warmly — even if they can’t do anything for him.”
“She doesn’t spin the truth. She tells it like it is.”
“He’s always on time. I can set my watch by him.”
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“She has strong convictions. She doesn’t blow in the wind.”
“He’s respectful, even when he doesn’t agree with me.”
“She’d never ask me to do anything that she wouldn’t do herself.”
“He’s a good friend. I can count on him in good times and bad.”
“She’s very fair — open-minded, objective, and even-handed.”
“I never fear that he’s withholding information from me.”
This list represents a few considerations involved in determining whether or not to trust someone. Many factors come into play, including honesty, integrity, dependability, reliability, compassion, selflessness, authenticity, fairness, tolerance, humility, kindness, forgiveness, loyalty, commitment, and transparency.
The fact is, trusting someone is a personal decision in which everyone employs a different rating scale — giving more weight to some factors than to others. In addition, you’re not the only one judging people based on these factors; they’re judging you as well.
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Are You Worthy of Trust?
Trust is?not?granted because you possess power, wealth, or status. Similarly, trust isn’t given because you demand or desire it. When someone places their trust in you, you’ve proven that you’re worthy of their trust and that you’ll work hard to preserve it.?
All it takes is money to buy a gift, but when you grant someone trust, it’s a gift from your heart. When you place your faith in someone, you’re inviting them to join an exclusive group. After all, you’re indicating that they have met your moral standards and you’d be honored to forge a very special relationship with them. From this moment forward, you will place your trust in the palms of their hands, knowing that it will be treated with care. What’s that worth? Trust is like love. It can’t be seen, but its value is immeasurable.
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Frank Sonnenberg is an award-winning author and a well-known advocate for moral character, personal values, and personal responsibility. He has written nine books and has been named one of “America's Top 100 Thought Leaders” and one of “America’s Most Influential Small Business Experts.” Frank has served on several boards and has consulted to some of the largest and most respected companies in the world. Frank’s newest book,?The Path to a Meaningful Life , will be released June, 2022.
Additionally, his blog —?FrankSonnenbergOnline ?— has attracted millions of readers on the Internet. It was recently named one of the “Top Self-Improvement and Personal Development Blogs” in the world, and it continues to be named among the “Best 21st Century Leadership Blogs,” the “Top 100 Socially-Shared Leadership Blogs,” and the “Best Inspirational Blogs On the Planet.”
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2 年Wow, here’s a very powerful article on the topic of “trust”, explaining what it is, how we use it, and what we get from it. The wrap-up/summary at the end say it so well… “All it takes is money to buy a gift, but when you grant someone trust, it’s a gift from your heart. When you place your faith in someone, you’re inviting them to join an exclusive group. After all, you’re indicating that they have met your moral standards and you’d be honored to forge a very special relationship with them. From this moment forward, you will place your trust in the palms of their hands, knowing that it will be treated with care. What’s that worth? Trust is like love. It can’t be seen, but its value is immeasurable.”
Author, BECOME: Unleash the Power of Moral Character and Be Proud of the Life You Choose
2 年Thanks for sharing, John. You’re the best!
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2 年Yes, honesty is more than gold and becomes rare in our world. It's worth cultivating honesty.
Chief Experience Officer at billquiseng.com. Award-winning Customer CARE Expert, Keynote Speaker, and Blogger
2 年"All it takes is money to buy a gift, but when you grant someone trust, it’s a gift from your heart" I whole“?”edly agree, John.?People trust with emotion and justify that decision with reason. They don't care how big you are. They only care how big you care about them. So CARE (COMMUNICATE interactively and frequently. ACKNOWLEDGE empathetically. RESPOND compassionately. EMPOWER them). And when you CARE, they will CARE (COMMUNICATE reciprocally. APPRECIATE sincerely. RECOGNIZE personally. ENRICH your life.) back. And Be Magnificently Boring! Consistently CARE for each person so tediously repetitive that you think it is boring, but to every person, you are Magnificent! People have an emotional connection with you. The more emotional the connection, the more memorable the experience, and the more loyal the people. Consistency builds trust. Trust builds loyalty. Loyalty builds relationships. CARE Magnificently! ? Thank you, John, for sharing and trusting me to share my comment. I very much appreciate you. As you are always, Be GREAT out there!
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2 年I was asked once about honesty. I said honesty is not the best policy it is the only policy. He said what if my wife asked if this dress makes me look fat. I said that is a stupid question that should never be asked so your response should be all your clothes make you look fat. Then let the fireworks began. Doubt you'll ever get that question again.