Do you communicate like a man...or a woman?
Carol Keers
Vice President / Senior Coach at Change Masters, Inc. and co-author of Seeing Yourself As Others Do
Tuesday tip - I heard recently, “Men communicate to report, women communicate for rapport.” Hmmmm.... Do you agree with that statement? Why or why not?
Or how about this one..."Men want acceptance, women want respect"?
After 30 years of coaching men and women, I think the answer is "it depends". Generally, I lean toward both statements as being true. However, I've worked with tough men and wimpy men and challenging women and passive women. That's why I look at two parameters when I meet a new coaching client for the first time.
They are, "Intensity" and "Expressiveness". Someone who is high intensity and low expressiveness will have a different profile on these statements than someone who is high intensity and high expressiveness, most likely. But it also depends on how they grew up. Your life story dictates more than you realize about how you interact with the world.
I'm no psychologist, but after sitting in the driver's seat of coaching sessions for 30 years, I know that your history is not your destiny....unless you ignore it, or its impact on others.
To learn how to better manage your impact today (no matter what happened to you yesterday!) go to: https://seeingyourselfasothersdo.com; or https://changemastersacademy.com
Living life!
6 年Carol transformed my career years ago and without her coaching and the insight I gained through ChangeMasters, I wouldn't be as effective a leader today - always seeking to improve but she helped me see the light on my delivery and others perception of me based on that!? Carol is the best and her comment on intensity and expressiveness are spot on!