Do you believe you have to be superwoman?

Do you believe you have to be superwoman? I mean, you're probably a super woman, but you don't have to be superwoman. I see this every day where women think they have to overperform, have to be successful, and put lots and lots of really, really strong demands on their own ability, time and success levels.?

What you are really doing is robbing yourself of the joy of the journey. What you are really doing is stopping yourself from enjoying the levels of success you have now. If you are continuously thinking about your next step, who you have to be in the next part, what you haven't done, what you need to do, you're certainly not in the now enjoying what you are doing and what you are achieving.?

And in my experience, you're achieving quite a lot… I would imagine you're achieving more than you think you are.?

So my advice on this is nice and short. Be in the moment and look for all the signs of the things that you are achieving RIGHT NOW. They could be small wins - small things that the reward centre of the brain loves to know about. It could be crossing something off a list, it could be getting something on a list, it could be starting something, it could be stopping something, it could be finishing something. These are all the kinds of things that the brain loves because it means we're moving forward. And ironically, although you probably feel stuck for quite a lot of the time (which is probably why you're reading this), then actually, it's because you haven't got this sorted! The brain likes to move forward…

Even small steps, Atomic Habits (James Clear, probably a book you may or may not have read). The brain likes things to move forward nice and slowly so you don't get spooked, you don't get scared. It's why we teach children the way we do at school. At the beginning - we just get them to be involved with each other at the start, and then we get little things for them to do, and then we get more and more, and by the time they leave school they've got lots of homework, they're studying, they've got exams, we're at high pressure. They wouldn't dream of putting that high pressure of exam mode on a five-year-old! Essentially, in business, you might be quite young, you might be a beginner, you might be a learner, and you're comparing yourself to those that are exam level.?

If you are comparing yourself, and that's what's creating your Superwoman complex, then just stop that! Comparisonitis will actually be the thief of your joy and I'm sure you've seen that in many places, but it's true. It'll also be the thief of your success and your enjoyment of that success.?

I wonder what level you're at? If you are going to compare yourself, at least compare yourself to people at a similar level. But there's no need to compare yourself at all, because I'm sure you're doing the best you can.?

If you need help, you know where I am.?

If you need skills, you know where I am.?

If there is a mindset block, that's typically from somewhere in your childhood and you might be working against your belief system, (which is typical for me to see).

We need to rewire and reset your belief system, so you're not working against your own brain, so that all parts of you want to move forward naturally, slowly, and calmly towards your next level; and your next level. And that goes if you're neurotypical, or you've got a neurodiversity such as ADHD, we still need to make sure you're getting what you need on this journey.