Do women really go for ‘bad boys’?

“Nice guys finish last” is one of the most widely believed maxims of dating.

Fleshed out, the idea goes something like this:

Women might say they want nice characteristics in a partner, but in reality what they want is the challenge that comes with dating a “bad boy”.

Every woman has had a friend who dated a guy who was clearly bad news, but she just couldn't resist.

Maybe, that "friend" was you. And yet, despite all the warnings and red flags, the pull of dating a "bad boy" is just too strong.

So, even with all of the signs that heartbreak is on the horizon, why do girls still find bad boys so appealing?

These men ooze testosterone, which leads to boldness and is associated with exaggerated sexuality, they may also be rebellious or emotionally unavailable,

It may not be politically correct to admit it, but these brooding, macho guys can be compellingly attractive, with their downright seductive swagger.

This idea is so widespread that some people are even making money off the back of it, selling self-help books and?teaching men how to pick up women by insulting them– a practice known as “nagging”.

Everyone knows bad boys … are desirable.

Some guys smoke and drink because this makes them more attractive short-term partners.

Leaving aside the obvious point that the article is conflating “bad” with drinking and smoking “badness” is really a lot more than just smoking 20 a day or drinking like there’s no tomorrow, is it really true that women prefer bad insensitive, macho jerks?

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Thank you ….One way to investigate the issue is to present women with hypothetical men with different personality types and see which ones they prefer.

So which woman should date and who did they prefer to date themselves?

Contrary to the stereotype that nice guys finish last, women prefer men who are sensitive, confident and easy-going, and that very few if any, women want to date a man who is aggressive or demanding.

The picture that emerges is clear: When women rate hypothetical partners, they clearly prefer “nice” men.

In fact, the power of niceness shouldn’t be underestimated.?It is well known that having a nice personality can even affect impressions of a person’s physical attractiveness.

Characteristics such as warmth, kindness, and basic decency are valued by both women and men – having them makes us more desirable partners, but also makes us appear more physically attractive.

The attractive power of narcissists.

Of course, sometimes some do find “bad” people attractive.

Narcissists – people who show high levels of self-importance, superiority, entitlement, arrogance and a willingness to exploit others – are often perceived as very attractive in initial encounters.

This may be because they put a lot of?effort into their appearance?and how they come across.

Do you want to add a word or two?....

Female narcissists tend to wear more make-up and show more cleavage than women who score lower on narcissism, whereas male narcissists spend more time building up their muscle mass.

Why bad boys can be so compelling. Women are more attracted to masculine men during the middle of their menstrual cycle, when they’re most fertile.

Men with very masculine traits may have better quality genes, so it could be attractive to women on an unconscious evolutionary level.

What they’re looking for in an ideal partner, women tend to cite nice-guy traits, like honesty, trustworthiness, and respectfulness.

In fact, they usually say they would actively avoid partners who are rude, disrespectful, or physically aggressive.

So, on a conscious level, I think most women recognize that bad boys don’t make good long-term partners.

“Bad boys" free girls from the pressure of being “good girls.”

Your Comments….

Girls possess a range of traits, like rebelliousness. These traits are typically repressed during childhood, as females are socialized to be compliant and agreeable.?

If a girl's inner life is unexpressed, she may be drawn to a bad boy as a way of vicariously expressing her own inner rebel.

Basically, they’re attracted to qualities in others that they wish they had.

A ‘good girl’ may admire the bad boy’s sense of freedom. Despite the fact that this quality makes him an unsuitable partner for the long-term, it can make him so attractive, it's seemingly worth the potential pain associated.

Bad boys can be a welcome change from the usual types of partners these men can seem “exciting and fun" —dating them can also come with huge drawbacks, like hurt feelings, fights, or even addictions and criminal records.

The energy between us was explosive, which resulted in incredible sex and adventures, but also fights.

Bad boys can seem taboo, which further adds to their appeal.?

When we want something we can’t or shouldn’t have, our desire for it grows exponentially.

Women who feel besieged by threats often fall for tough guys, with their disregard for social norms and willingness to quickly escalate frustration to hostility, threats, and aggression.

They desire having someone in their life who is tough enough to face the world and punch back when necessary.

Men who don’t want to change in most cases will not. For instance, males who’ve cheated are more likely to be unfaithful in future relationships as well.

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