Do Software Developers Have Many Friends? ??

As a software developer, it’s easy to slip into the solo mindset—coding late into the night, solving complex problems alone, and getting lost in the tech world.

But what about friendship?

How connected do we actually feel?

Here’s a look at the numbers:

1. 55% of software developers report feeling isolated at least once a week, according to recent surveys.

2. 70% admit they’re more comfortable chatting in online forums than in real-life social settings.

3. Only 25% have a “close friend” they regularly meet up with outside of work.

Why is this happening?

The psychology behind it is fascinating:

1. The Need for Focus

Programming is mentally intensive—studies show deep concentration can lead to “focus isolation,” a state where we tune out social needs to maintain flow.

Over time, this can make it harder to connect with others outside of work.

2. The Comfort of Online Connections

With remote work and the rise of developer communities, many of us feel closer to online peers.

Psychologists call this “digital intimacy,” where meaningful relationships can form even if they’re not IRL.

3. Preference for Smaller Circles

Most developers describe themselves as introverts (65%), preferring a few close connections over big social circles. This can lead to strong bonds, but fewer in number.

So, what’s the takeaway?

Building friendships might not always come naturally in tech.

But making an effort—even just a weekly coffee or virtual chat—can make a huge difference in our mental health and career satisfaction.

If you’re a developer, how often do you connect with friends?

And do you feel tech has impacted your social life?