Do skin colour really matters?

PS: don't get offeneded

Hello,

For my introduction, I am an HR in an It company and handle my small business of hand made chocolates. Isn't it weird when introducing ourselves, we come with the profession or relation depending upon the situation?

No one introduces like Hey/Hi am a dusky shade girl or boy.

Everyone is body-shamed, whether you are a boy or girl, skinny or fat, Or fair or Dark.

The first time this colorism hit me when I was in my school was a play or dance I don't remember exactly. I was just five years, and the audition of fairy was going as an excited kid. I followed my teacher for the same, but she scolded me and asked me to sit on my seat. I was not the colour of a fairy. Who has seen Fairy how can someone define the colour of fairy? I still remember her wordings till now "yaar ye to kaali hai stage par kaali pari wo bhi front me."(a brown toned girl in front line stage) and I was given the role of the mouse. In that costume, my face was not even visible.

I completely lost my confidence, and I never participated in any activity in school or college.

This was not only one incident. As my Name is Shallu, I was bullied in school as Shallu Kallu Allu and so on. After a point, I was used to it.

The one phrase I heard a lot was "She has such beautiful features but her skin color is dark."

Earlier my mom used to apply fairness creams and uptans (Ayurvedic face mask )so that my skin gets fair.

After a point of being called kalli,(black) I have just one answer "worship me if I am Kaali "(For those who don't know, Kaali is also referred to as A powerful Goddess in Hindu MYTHOLOGY.)

I ignore such comments as much I can. I put my headphones on to ignore the negative vibes. There were many incidents where I got so much affected due to my colour, whether it's work or family function. I love red lipstick, But whenever I apply a bold shade of red, there is always one person to advise me not to use as it is not going with my skin tone. My answer to them It's my choice to apply any colour I want, I can wear neon shades. If I am happy, You are no one to judge.

To deal with colourism, My backbone was my brother and friends who didn't care about my colour; all they see in me was my nature. They helped to regain my confidence.

The ones who are going through this, I would advise you to ignore them. People make fun of us because they nothing to do in life.

If someone makes fun of you, give them a sarcastic reply in a fun way. If you show them that their statement is hurting you, they will repeat it again and again intentionally.

People are never happy for you when I was skinny I was bullied when I gained weight I am still bullied.

Stand for yourself, and stay confident you are beautiful the way you are.

Just a small life incident from my life

I was bullied and even loved. A little request to all to adapt a habit to not being judgemental don't pass any comments that can hurt someone's feeling No one knows what other is going through.

Much love Linkedin Family.