Do I feel shame?
Welcome to the latest edition of Tuesday Trio.
Each week,?Tuesday Trio serves up three tips to evoke reflection and improve our mental health and wellbeing.
This week, we’re asking, “Do I feel shame?”
The pieces we have selected today explore various emotions associated with shame. For instance, do you believe that guilt gets confused with shame? Are they intricately linked? Maybe guilt is about what we have done, while shame is about who we are? What is your take? What other emotions do you associate or confuse with shame?
What are we watching this week?
We are listening to Brené Brown’s Talk, Listening to Shame.
At I Am Here, we are interested in Brené’s exploration of shame, and its links to one of our five CLEAR skills, Empathy. She suggests that Empathy is the antidote to shame.
“If we're going to find our way back to each other, we have to understand and know empathy, because empathy's the antidote to shame. If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment. If you put the same amount in a petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can't survive.”?
Watch Listening to Shame(20 minute watch)
Do you agree with her conclusions? Does the talk have value for you? Your sharing of thoughts and reflections are always welcome through our Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.
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What are we reading this week?
We’ve been reading Arlin Cuncic’s article, What is Shame? It explores what shame is, the types and signs of shame, the shaming of others, and how, ultimately, to overcome shame.
The idea of the hot response resonated with us. Sometimes, we instinctively react instead of taking a moment to pause, reflect, and respond. Our course, I Am Here for Me: Self-Checks, can teach you how to give yourself that moment to stop reacting and start responding. We would love to hear your thoughts on it.
Read What is Shame?(7-minute read)
What are we quoting this week?
“Why do we fall? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up.”
-??Batman Begins
This quote struck a chord with us. Do we need to go somewhere we haven’t been to before to get to where we want to be? Is the falling down the first step to getting up? Can shame redirect us? Can shame benefit us? What do you think?