Divorcing with Minor Children? Have You Heard of Nesting?
Robert G. Hetsler, Jr. J.D. CPA
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The status quo for most divorcing people with children still living at home is to sell the marital home and set up two separate living spaces. The children then shuttle back and forth between the two homes of mom and dad.
But some innovative divorcing couples have adopted a different approach to splitting up. Nesting, while not a new concept, was brought to the forefront in renowned #divorce attorney Laura Wasser’s book “It Doesn’t Have to Be That Way: How to Divorce Without Destroying Your Family or Bankrupting Yourself.”
The concept is simple – the marital home is preserved and the kids stay in it. The ones doing the shuttling back and forth are mom and dad. And while this arrangement is unlikely to work for every divorcing couple, it definitely seems to meet the criteria of “best interest of the children” if the divorcing spouses can make it work.
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Therapist in Private Practice
7 年I think it's interesting that most of the negative comments are from attorney's. My two cents.
Psychotherapist/Mediator/FDRP/Trainer
7 年this is not a good idea for children or parents. Children hold the dream that their parents will get back together again and watching them returning to the same home creates emotional turmoil for them and as a consequence keep them experiencing the grieving process and ultimately this can lead to long term mental health issues. Parents are also constantly experiencing grief and loss albeit often unconsciously. Sharing a home also presents multiple issues including not being physically, financially or emotionally separated which becomes evident when one or both repartner. I have never come across a successful sharing one home situation ever.
Social Worker facilitating growth and development of people and services.
7 年I have had several clients do this for limited amounts of time. It doesn't have to be expensive. People frequently live at their parents when not in the matrimonial home. Other folks have rented a single small apartment that was also shared. The arrangement does take an amount of trust and cooperation. Certainly not for everyone and not likely a long term solution but an good stop-gap measure...
Co-Founder of Family Mediation Center,Divorce Lawyer and Mediator, Partner at Hansen & Hildebrand S.C.
7 年As a divorce lawyer and mediator, I have seen it work. Most often parents use nesting as a transition plan rather than long term given the challenges of cost as well as changes that come with new relationships...
Employment Specialist - Training and Recruiting
7 年It's certainly not for everyone but I've seen it work. Interestingly, the people most opposed to it seem to be divorce lawyers. Perhaps they have other priorities than the best interest of the families.