Divorce Without War: A Divorce Lawyer's Tips for an Amicable Divorce

Are you trying to get an amicable divorce?

If so, you’re not alone. Virtually every divorcing person in the world would prefer to have an amicable divorce.?

True, sometimes there are exceptions. If you find out your spouse cheated on you, lied to you, or gambled away your retirement fund, you might want to fight just to make your spouse suffer. But most of the time, most people would prefer to work things out without waging a war or spending their life savings on legal fees.

Yet amicable divorces don’t happen by accident. They happen when you decide that keeping the peace matters to you. They happen when you decide that you’re willing to do what it takes to prioritize peace.

That’s a lot easier to think about than it is to do.?

What's Your WHY??

Understanding WHY you want to divorce amicably can help you stay on track and get the peaceful divorce you want.?It will help you focus on walking away from a fight, even when your soon-to-be-ex pushes your buttons or does something stupid.

For example, maybe you know you’re going to have to co-parent with your ex after your divorce. Because of that, you’re willing to work to keep your divorce amicable so that your kids don’t suffer. That's your "WHY."

Or maybe you don’t want to deal with the drama of a contested divorce. Maybe you’d rather not air your dirty laundry in a courtroom. Either of those reasons can be your "WHY."

Whatever your reason, getting an amicable divorce starts with wanting an amicable divorce. (It also helps if your spouse wants an amicable divorce, too!)

After that, you have to actually DO the things that will help make your divorce amicable. You also have to AVOID DOING the things that will start a war.

That may sound simple. But it can be extremely challenging.

Here are 30 tips you can use to keep your divorce civilized, dignified, and amicable. ... Read More