Divorce Recovery: Navigating the Divorce Process

Divorce, separations, and the associated heartache is something we hope to experience very little in life. Losing an important person, whether the parting was your choice or not, is an excruciating experience -- and nearly all of us have been through it at least once. They say that “time heals all wounds” and while true, connecting with others going through the same situation provides an invaluable venue to share feelings, practices, and resources to cope with the emotional challenges of divorce recovery.

Are you having difficulty understanding and coping with divorce?

Many of us have invested ourselves in relationships to the degree that we have lost our sense of self. Sometimes we rely too much on validation by others to fuel our sense of self-worth. Other times, a divorce wasn’t our choice and the resulting devastation feels like too much to handle.

All of these situations, and more, create a deep sense of regret, blame, abandonment, and lack of trust. If these emotional wounds are left unhealed, they can contribute to blockages in future relationships or contribute to destructive, unhealthy relationship patterning. Unaddressed relationship pain and cause us to continue to chose the wrong partners or make the same mistakes. Even worse, they can effect our personal development, career ambition, parenting, or trigger addictive behaviors.

It’s in cases like this that a professional relationship psychologist can direct healing efforts to ensure that future relationships are not triggered by past pain.

Do you notice a familiar pattern reoccurring in your relationships?

Humans beings are creatures of repetition and habit. The choices we make in relationships aren’t any different. Much of our “adult attachment style” dictates the way we respond to relationship. While it’s often a strong predictor, the attachment style you developed as a child based on your relationship with a parent doesn’t always define the ways you relate to those you love in your adult life. READ MORE