The distress of white-collar workers in the workplace: Is it really difficult to balance family and work?

The distress of white-collar workers in the workplace: Is it really difficult to balance family and work?

The role and status of women in the workplace are becoming more and more important. It is said that "women can hold up half the sky in the workplace". However, compared with men who can concentrate on their careers, more working women have to face the dual pressures of work and family at the same time. Senior career mentors suggest that women should take care of both, and do a good job of changing the roles of the workplace and family.

Must give up work after marriage

Ye Bei (pseudonym), 29 years old, works in a public institution in Haishu District.

Two days ago, her boyfriend who had been in love for three years proposed to her. At the same time, the boyfriend made a request: After getting married, he has to give up his current job and go to his hometown in Northeast China to develop with him.

Since this year, the introverted Ye Bei has quarreled with her boyfriend many times over whether to give up her job. The boyfriend who works in a foreign company in Northeast China thinks that Ye Bei can be a full-time wife and does not need to work. But Ye Bei feels that a career is necessary, and it is difficult to find a job in her boyfriend's hometown. If there is no job, family life will also face certain pressure.

During the phone conversation with Ye Bei, she said that she has been in the current unit for 5 years and has gotten used to the current working environment. This year, she transferred her post and got several opportunities to go out for study and training, and her career has improved significantly. If she gives up her career for the sake of her family, it means that her five years of hard work will be in vain.

Children become pressure on women in the workplace

Compared with Ye Bei's dilemma of love and marriage, many married women in the workplace feel the pressure from children from time to time.

Xiao Yu, who works in the advertising industry, plans to have a child within a year. Because he was worried that he would be marginalized in the company, Xiao Yu now always felt a strong sense of crisis, and worked even harder. "My husband and I quarreled several times about work and childbirth."

Xiao Yu also mentioned that after one of her supervisors had a child, she often worried about the child's education. Since the supervisor had a child, he has been worrying about the child's schooling and health issues every day, and often asks for leave for this reason. "If it wasn't for her son, the director's achievements would definitely be more than that."

Just like relationships and marriage, children have become the main source of stress for women in the workplace. According to a survey conducted by a well-known domestic human resources service company, 10.34% of the respondents believe that women bear more pressure than men when it comes to the major life event of having children, and more than 70% of them believe that men and women bear more pressure. The pressure is equally great, and only 17.73% of the respondents think that women have to bear less pressure than men.

Please do a good job of changing roles in the workplace and at home

Ye Youqin, a senior career instructor from Zhengye Enterprise Management Consulting Co., Ltd. in Ningbo National High-tech Zone, analyzed that Ye Bei's pressure comes from the complete opposition between work and family.

In such a situation, Ye Youqin suggested that you should choose between the two according to their family background, work background, economic situation and long-term future development plan. Once you identify each other as a life partner, you can give priority to family.

How do working women handle the relationship between work and family? "Don't bring the pressure of work to family members, and don't bring the pressure and trivialities of family to work." Ye Youqin said that women in the workplace can change their roles at work and at home, which plays an important role in maintaining the balance between work and family .