DISPUTING IRRATIONAL BELIEFS
Lloyd Lofton Jr. L.U.T.C.
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WHAT IS AN IRRATIONAL BELIEF??
Beliefs are cognitions, thoughts, attitudes, self-statements, or images and they are the primary determinant of emotions. ?
Inappropriate emotions are generally preceded by irrational beliefs. ?
Beliefs are not facts. ?
Facts are observable, probable, and verifiable. ?
Irrational beliefs, which lead to inappropriate emotions, can be categorized in the following way.?
1.????Demandingness:
Absolute thinking without areas of gray. ?
Demands include should must, need, ought to, have to, require, and commands.?
2.?????Awfulizing:
When we evaluate an event as awful, we are usually magnifying or exaggerating the event. ?
Awful implies that the event could not be any worse and of course, it always could. ?
We may also be implying that the event has never happened to anyone else or that somehow, we should be exempt from the realities of life. ?
Unfortunately, this is not the case.?
3.????Low Tolerance For Frustration:
People believe that they can't stand discomfort or frustration, and that they should be happy all the time. ?
In short, they should be like a god and dictate the ebb and flow of the universe.?
4.????Bating of Self and Other:
People believe that they are better than others because they wear designer jeans, and are more athletic, smarter, or better looking. ?
Do any of these things really address the worth of an individual as a human being??
Do they see the human potential and possibilities contained within each individual person??
5.?????Overgeneralizing About The Future:
Linking past events to future ones as if there is some magical relationship. ?
A good example is that "children from alcoholic homes become alcoholics." ?
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If only one case exists where this is not the case then the statement is false. ?
Just because something happened to you in your past, that event does not need to influence your future. ?
Because I failed this time, I am a loser, a bad person, and I will continue to fail hereafter.?
METHODS FOR DISPUTING IRRATIONAL BELIEFS:?
1.?Question the Evidence: ?
You can examine the facts.?
2.?Decatastrophizing: ?
??Life situations may be unfortunate and painful but not unbearable.?
3.?Explore the Advantages and Disadvantages: ??
??How does the belief get you what you want??
4.?Turn Adversity Into Advantage: ?
?How is the event positive, what did you learn??
5.?Learn to identify Irrational Beliefs: ?
Look for them in yourself and others.?
6.?Examine Idiosyncratic Meanings: ?
Explore words and their definitions.?
7.?Reattribution: ?
Develop a more accurate understanding of events.?
8.?Examine Options and Methods: ?
Examine and explore the possibility of doing something different in any given situation, utilizing something different...?
9.?Fantasized Consequences: ?
Explore the fantasized consequences as one possible outcome. ?
We cannot predict the future.?
10. Use Paradox and Exaggeration: ?
???Exaggerate by taking a situation to its extreme conclusion or stating its???extreme opposite.
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