Discover Leadership That Feels Like Home

Welcome back, Cultivate Leadership Community,

This week, I want to introduce someone who feels close to home in more ways than one—someone I think many of you will recognize: Daniel.

Daniel's story has a special place in my heart because Daniel is me, the “earlier me.” Years ago, when I first started this journey, I wrote Daniel’s story as a reminder of who I wanted to help and why. Now, nearly six years later, I share Daniel’s story with you all because there are so many people out there just like him, just like my younger self, navigating the same questions, struggles, and dreams.

Daniel is a 34-year-old dad and Marine Corps veteran who wanted more for his life. He stepped out of uniform, got a job, started a family, but still felt something was missing. He’d lay awake at night wondering how he’d truly provide for his family, how he’d become the dad he wanted to be, how he’d show up as the husband his wife needed, and how he’d build the certainty they both craved.

Daniel looks at his kids and wonders what kind of life he’s creating for them.

He’s seeking a deep connection with his wife and kids. He keeps so much bottled up because he was taught that’s the “right” thing to do. He has conversations in his head that always end with him feeling broken, worthless, and questioning if this is really all life has to offer.

He’s looking for that one thing that will change his life in a radical way. He has big dreams, ambitious goals, and a heart as wide as the ocean.

One day, he hears a podcast that says, “Dads coming home,” and he realizes he’s been on autopilot for so much of his life. He tells himself, “Today will be the day.” He takes the first step, beginning a journey of discovery, growth, and a vulnerability he’s never known.

Practical Tips: How to Take the First Step Toward the “Real You”

Daniel’s journey is a reminder that real change begins with a single, conscious choice. Here are a few small but powerful steps you can take to start uncovering the real you:

1. Create Space for Reflection Take a few minutes each day to reflect on what truly matters to you. Maybe it’s time with family, your own growth, or redefining success on your own terms.
2. Embrace One Vulnerable Conversation Try opening up with someone in your life—a partner, friend, or even yourself through journaling. Sharing openly about your dreams and challenges helps to foster connection and self-trust.
3. Listen for a Prompt Much like Daniel’s podcast moment, keep an ear out for something that resonates. That nudge could come from a book, a podcast, or a conversation and may be the spark you need to say, “Today will be the day.”

Self-Reflection Questions

Consider these questions as you continue on your personal growth journey:

• When I think about my family and the future I want to create, what do I see?
• What old stories am I carrying that no longer serve who I want to be?
• Where in my life have I been on “autopilot,” and how can I take back the controls?

Featured Resource: Podcasts on Fatherhood and Authenticity

This week, I’m excited to share two of my own podcasts that explore the journey of fatherhood, personal growth, and authenticity.

1. The Military Veteran Dad Podcast In The Military Veteran Dad, I talk with military dads, authors, and thought leaders to help veterans reconnect with their families and themselves. We come home from war physically, but not emotionally. Each episode offers insights on navigating the unique challenges military dads face, focusing on emotional reconnection, breaking generational cycles, and finding purpose beyond service. Listen Here
2. The Business of Fatherhood In The Business of Fatherhood, I bring quick, impactful daily episodes tailored for busy dads looking to build deeper connections with their families. With a focus on personal growth and intentional parenting, this podcast encourages fathers to lead their families with authenticity. Listen Here

Both podcasts are here to support you in your journey to become the father, husband, and leader your family needs. You can find them wherever you listen to podcasts.

Sharing Our Stories

This week, I’d love to hear from those of you who may have a “Daniel” in your life—a former version of yourself, a loved one, or someone you know who has struggled but also found hope and growth. By sharing our stories, we lift each other up and remind one another that we’re not alone on this path.

Final Thoughts

Daniel’s journey is one many of us know well, even if the details differ. His story reflects the truth that life’s challenges and doubts are stepping stones to becoming the person we’re meant to be. It’s the real you that the world needs, and it’s the real you that will create lasting impact in the lives of those around you. By taking that first step toward uncovering your own authentic self, you build a foundation of trust, resilience, and strength that others can lean on and learn from.

Let’s make today the day we begin that journey, even if it’s just a small step.

My promise in everything I do is to always be the coach I wish I had in my life ten years ago.

Let’s Walk This Journey Together

If Daniel’s story touched your heart, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to navigate this path alone, either. At New Definitions Consulting, my mission is to support leaders like you who long to lead with heart, purpose, and connection.

Maybe you’re ready to show up for your family in a new way, or perhaps you’re searching for the courage to lead with authenticity. Together, we can create a vision for your leadership that honors who you truly are and the impact you want to make.

Here’s How We Can Get Started:

• Reconnect with Your Heart’s Purpose – We’ll clarify what matters most to you, both in your work and personal life, so your leadership reflects your true values.
• Lead with Trust and Openness – I’ll help you cultivate a trust-centered approach that opens the door to real connection and inspires loyalty.
• Build for Balance – We’ll focus on practical steps that let you bring balance to your life, making space for the people and moments that matter most.

If you’re ready to lead with heart and create lasting, meaningful change in both your life and those around you, reach out for a consultation. Let’s start building the life and leadership that speaks to your deepest values.

I am ready.

Until next time,

Benjamin Daniel ?? Killoy